It’s taken a lot of courage for me to write this as I feel so ashamed.
I’m 57 and feel like I’m still being bullied by my 82 year old mother.
I’m not in the best of health, I broke my back in road accident ten years ago and I’m currently having treatment for an Abscess on my Liver. (She’s not aware of this)
I’m the oldest of three and she was always unkind to us as children. I’d come home from school at 11 and have to cook tea for the whole family whilst she did nothing. My revision for my O Levels suffered badly, yet she never realised it was down to her.
I met a wonderful man 22 years ago and I moved 200 miles to live with him, then 8 years ago she and my Dad came to live 15 miles near us. 😢 My Dad passed away 2 years ago after suffering from Vascular Dementia and now I’ve become his replacement.
I spent 6 weeks with them, caring for him, he’s my Dad, I wanted to be there, but she never once asked if I was ok, I supported her, my siblings and my children. She has never once asked me or my siblings about the loss of Dad, nothing.
she’ll ring or text me up to 9 times a day, if I don’t answer she’ll contact my husband then my son to find out where I am. She wants visiting every week, jobs doing, shopping, taking out on visits and the classic is taking her to have her Covid jab that is a mile up the road from her house.. Yet it’s a 30 mile round trip for me.
She never contacts my brother or sister, complains about them to me, but leaves them alone and I have to admit it’s all making me ill.
I dread the phone ringing, dread going round to see her because it’s just an endless list of things she’s wants doing, or where she wants taking.
And… all this sounds like I’m the most ungrateful person in the world, I should be lucky to have a Mum. But when you’re mum has ordered you around for your whole life and you realise you’re at breaking point and you can’t say No, what do I do.
I feel hopeless and pathetic, I can’t stand up to her, but every time I try I just feel like that little girl again being spanked. 😔
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Tallular66 · 21/10/2023 23:24
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