WWYD - DS YR1

[SoullessButSunny]

Hi,

I would appreciate any advice please.

My DS has just started yr1.

Boy A has been harassing him at break time and trying to be rough with him, including kicking.

Boy B has been pushing him over in the playground and whilst DS has been down on the ground on all fours Boy B has been trying to push his head down which hurts DS's neck.

In the classroom Boy B has also been stabbing DS with pencils, pushing him etc.

This has all come out over the past few days. DS has said that 'I'm scared at break time, that's why I like to be on my own'.

We've only been back a week so I want to nip it in the bud before it all escalates but what should I say to the teacher?

DS has a right to feel safe at school but at the moment he's not and is reluctant to go in in the morning.

Thank you.

Oh yes, I really hope the school take you seriously - they absolutely should. Have you got your letter all ready?

Thanks kiri. Yes, my letter is all ready to go. It's quite strongly worded considering this is the first time I've written but I need them to take this seriously and know I'm not going to go away until it's resolved.

Good stuff. Let us know how you get on. :)

Hi all,

Just to let you all know that I've had a reply already and I'm impressed with the teacher.

Her reply stated that there's a zero tolerance to this type of behaviour and the school have put procedures into place regarding Boy A and B.

She's already had a meeting with the KS1 team leader to bring them up to speed and all the break time staff have been notified.

Everyone involved will report back to the teacher so she can keep a record of it all - hopefully there won't be any further incidents though.

She's spoken to one of the boys today and reminded him that this type of behaviour has serious consequences. The other boy wasn't in today but she's going to talk to him on his return.

I don't think the teacher could have done anymore then she already has at this stage.

Hopefully this will be the end of it and the boys won't be allowed to continue being violent to their classmates.

Thanks everyone.

Should add that she's also told all the other KS1 teachers and TAs so they can keep an eye out as well.

That sounds v positive. Have you told your DS? Hope he's feeling a bit better about everything.

I found I really had to drum it into DS how important it was that he told a teacher if anyone was unkind to him so if your DS hasn't been doing that so far, hopefully their response will make him realise they will take him very seriously.

Yes I've spoken to DS about it all and reminded him he needs to tell his teacher about any more incidents.

He came out of school the happiest I've seen him in a few weeks so I think he feels that a weight has been lifted of his shoulders.

The teacher has had a lengthy chat with DS today and has assured him that they will take him very seriously. She's also told him to tell her about any future incidents, even if he's already told a dinner lady.

Yay :)

I bet he thinks you're the best mummy in the world too - he tells you when something's upsetting him and you fix it! Ace

That made me smile. Thanks kiri

Oh that's very reassuring news

Yes it is BakeryQueen

So pleased - hopefully that's the end if it now.