I'm looking for any experiences of BF an older baby, as I have literally no idea what I'm doing, and I'm getting a lot of advice that all our sleeping/eating "problems" would be solved by switching to formula/weaning from the boob.
FTM to a 9mo DD, who was EBF to 6mo and still BF now. Started weaning at 6mo, but she wouldn't take a spoon, so did BLW. Two months of not eating a thing, then all of a sudden she started eating. It's going ok now, but I doubt she's eating as much as her spoon-fed peers. Some days she's just not interested at all, but I'm past worrying about it now, as long as she has a go I'm happy enough.
During the daytime she has 4-5 breastfeeds, sometimes more but rarely. I always feed her to sleep. She has two naps a day, for an hour or so each, not always easy to get her down and I think she'll drop to one nap before too long. At night she wakes between two and eleventy billion times. I mostly feed her back to sleep, unless she's woken up very soon after a feed, then my DH can usually sort her out. Trying to get her to sleep without a feed generally results in a massive crying fit, nothing else seems to soothe her. I literally can't cope with the screaming, over-tired baby, I would always rather feed her to sleep because it works. Can't stomach sleep training, and she can cry for hours, so that is not an option for us. Tried gentle sleep training (baby whisperer), didn't work.
For me, the pros of BF (it's free, no sterilising, no bottles to carry around, it gets her to sleep, it's a nice bond, it's helped me lose weight , etc) outweigh the cons (more predictable routine with FF, she might sleep better if weaned off the boob, ability to leave her more easily with others, she might eat better if only having a couple of bottles a day, etc).
HVs and grandparents all think that she doesn't sleep because she doesn't eat enough, because she breastfeeds too much. I feel like their experience is largely based on FF babies, because (at least in the case of grandparents) that's how their babies were fed and that's what they know. I can't really find anyone IRL who has breastfed longer than 6 months. I want to feed her longer, until she self-weans ideally, but I'm really doubting myself and I feel like I've created this wakeful baby (mainly because that's what grandparents hint at, and HV has outright told me!) I get worried about how she'll cope with nursery when she goes at 1, how she'll sleep without me, will she eat enough, etc. I should add, my DH can get her to sleep, but apart from me and him she hasn't slept for anyone else.
If anyone has any experiences of feeding older babies to share I'd really appreciate it. I don't really think her eating/sleeping needs "fixing" (although everyone else thinks they do), I just want reassurance that I've not broken the baby by not moving to formula!
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LittleSausageFingers · 16/11/2016 12:26
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