I have name changed for this.
Just after some advice really.
Quick background, SIL had first baby 5 weeks ago. She has (undiagnosed) SN and personally I was worried before she even had the baby as to how she was going to cope with one. MIL and FIL had to clear up their house 3 wks before baby was due because they were worried that SS would take the baby off their daughter. She is married to a total loser (another long long story), both SIL and BIL are on benefits (just saying so as to not dripfeed) but 'can't remember' what has happened to the £500 they got from the govt to help set them up. PIL's have so far provided all of the things for the baby (nursery, pram etc etc)
Anyway. Was on phone to MIL last night. She was really upset. Said that SIL wasn't supporting the baby's head correctly when she was holding him, and that she'd noticed he was looking very skinny/weak. She asked her daughter, how is he feeding, and SIL replied, he's not hungry so I don't give him any milk. Transpires he's had ONE feed in the last 12 hours.
From what we can gather, HV has commented that he's not gaining weight the way that he should be.
I don't have any children yet (due in 8 weeks), and I'm planning on BF'ing anyways. But my question is, how much FF milk should a baby be given during a 24 hr period? I'm really looking for some advice to give to MIL so that MIL is giving correct information to her daughter. MIL is concerned that SS are going to get involved and take her grandson away. Obviously, there are big issues going on here, but I'd just like some advice on how much milk a new baby should be getting.
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SIL left her 5 wk old baby for 12 hrs without milk :S
worriedwhocanadvise · 23/09/2012 12:59
Dad is a useless waste of space! Seriously. Have only had the pleasure of meeting him the once....once was enough. He spends all of his benefits on alcohol and drugs. He literally lazes his fat arse on the couch all day. Does nothing. His family are just as bad, so no support there. You're right though...it does/should take two to parent - v unfortunate in this case that neither of them are remotely capable!
When SIL came out of hospital, she went home to a house that had no food in the fridge - he'd spent the money on booze...MIL had to go to Tesco to get a full shop in so that daughter had something to eat! Seriously, not enough milk or bread in the house. Only a crap husband would do that! He'd left the hospital early because he was 'bored' - I know for a fact that my lovely DH will be cooking/cleaning/keeping me fed very very well when we have our new baby (and I feel very fortunate that this is the case)
Some people just shouldn't have kids I guess...
op, sorry for your loss 
, I hope everything goes well with the end of your pg and when your baby arrives
good point fuckadoodle
So sorry for your loss Op, and well done for calling SS. I hope the poor little lad stands a chance now, pls keep us updated on his progress.
All the best for the arrival of your baby too, sounds like you will make fantastic mum 
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Thank you everyone 
I have 'denied'...MIL said daughter has had a visit this morning (unexpected) ...I just said 'Oh, well that's great, she needs more support doesn't she?'
Just munching on some chocolate chip cookies as we speak :) thank you all x
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