Hi all,
I'm not sure where to start honestly as I'm still quite shocked, but need somewhere to talk and ask for advice on what to do/say?
I have been undergoing routine blood tests since late October, a few days after my initial blood test I had a message from the doctors asking me to book another blood test in two weeks time as I had 'slightly raised ESR levels.' Which I did, I then had another blood test in January and a doctors appointment mid March where the doctor told me they hadn't found anything but would schedule blood tests for me in the future.
Originally, I had gone to the doctors as I thought there was a possibility I could be pregnant. It was VERY soon after I would of conceived though (hence the blood test instead of pregnancy test as my son wasn't confirmed via test but blood test) I never believed in the 'when you know, you know.' However with both of my previous pregnancies I instantly knew (with my previous pregnancy 10 days after conception and I think around the same time with my son) as I'm not a very sicky person but I would feel very nauseous, I know many will say there's no way I could of known but I knew.
With my first son I had early scans as they thought my pregnancy could of been ectopic (however wasn't) and my second I had chosen to have an abortion as my financial circumstances weren't in the right place.
As I said, I had my usual pregnancy symptoms so had gone to the doctors, I had bleeding at the start of November so just dismissed the chance of being pregnant. In December, I decided to get the contraceptive implant. At this appointment, I was asked if there was a chance I could be pregnant. I explained that I hadn't had sex since late October, and bled a bit at the beginning of November, and my period was due 'any day' but I hadn't had it yet. They proceeded to fit the implant without taking a pregnancy test. A few days later (8th Dec) I experienced very heavy bleeding, which I thought was my period - but then I got my period at the end of December (26th). I didn't think anything of it at the time.
The other day I received in the post an NHS letter saying that I had been referred to the gynaecology unit for 'recurrent miscarriages' which is very upsetting to me. I have no idea when I could of had a miscarriage as I'm not aware of ever having any. I have an appointment at my doctors this week, but I called the unit today just for some information and the nurses there were very rude.
I explained to them that I had never been informed of having any miscarriages - the nurse told me that on the notes it said I had an ectopic pregnancy and two missed miscarriages. I tried to explain about my son, and October/December however she cut me off saying 'look you would KNOW if you had a miscarriage' to which I tried to explain my bleeding after the implant and she said 'well did they not do a test or a urine sample before you had your implant fitted?' I said no, so she put me on hold to speak to the nurse who had sent me the letter - She stated that she had the wrong person and inputted the wrong D.O.B on the system so I 'accidentally' got the letter, and I had nothing to worry about before hurrying off of the phone.
I just have no idea what to think, and I'm so upset over it all - I regretted my abortion, and when I believed I could of been pregnant I knew that if I was, I would of kept the baby.
Do I make a formal complaint? Are there any questions I should be asking the doctor on Friday? Other than obviously wtf???? I don't know if I miscarried or not, I just feel lost.