Did my DRs really mess this up? TW Baby loss/abortion.

[sKav]

Hi all,

I'm not sure where to start honestly as I'm still quite shocked, but need somewhere to talk and ask for advice on what to do/say?

I have been undergoing routine blood tests since late October, a few days after my initial blood test I had a message from the doctors asking me to book another blood test in two weeks time as I had 'slightly raised ESR levels.' Which I did, I then had another blood test in January and a doctors appointment mid March where the doctor told me they hadn't found anything but would schedule blood tests for me in the future.

Originally, I had gone to the doctors as I thought there was a possibility I could be pregnant. It was VERY soon after I would of conceived though (hence the blood test instead of pregnancy test as my son wasn't confirmed via test but blood test) I never believed in the 'when you know, you know.' However with both of my previous pregnancies I instantly knew (with my previous pregnancy 10 days after conception and I think around the same time with my son) as I'm not a very sicky person but I would feel very nauseous, I know many will say there's no way I could of known but I knew.

With my first son I had early scans as they thought my pregnancy could of been ectopic (however wasn't) and my second I had chosen to have an abortion as my financial circumstances weren't in the right place.

As I said, I had my usual pregnancy symptoms so had gone to the doctors, I had bleeding at the start of November so just dismissed the chance of being pregnant. In December, I decided to get the contraceptive implant. At this appointment, I was asked if there was a chance I could be pregnant. I explained that I hadn't had sex since late October, and bled a bit at the beginning of November, and my period was due 'any day' but I hadn't had it yet. They proceeded to fit the implant without taking a pregnancy test. A few days later (8th Dec) I experienced very heavy bleeding, which I thought was my period - but then I got my period at the end of December (26th). I didn't think anything of it at the time.

The other day I received in the post an NHS letter saying that I had been referred to the gynaecology unit for 'recurrent miscarriages' which is very upsetting to me. I have no idea when I could of had a miscarriage as I'm not aware of ever having any. I have an appointment at my doctors this week, but I called the unit today just for some information and the nurses there were very rude.

I explained to them that I had never been informed of having any miscarriages - the nurse told me that on the notes it said I had an ectopic pregnancy and two missed miscarriages. I tried to explain about my son, and October/December however she cut me off saying 'look you would KNOW if you had a miscarriage' to which I tried to explain my bleeding after the implant and she said 'well did they not do a test or a urine sample before you had your implant fitted?' I said no, so she put me on hold to speak to the nurse who had sent me the letter - She stated that she had the wrong person and inputted the wrong D.O.B on the system so I 'accidentally' got the letter, and I had nothing to worry about before hurrying off of the phone.

I just have no idea what to think, and I'm so upset over it all - I regretted my abortion, and when I believed I could of been pregnant I knew that if I was, I would of kept the baby.

Do I make a formal complaint? Are there any questions I should be asking the doctor on Friday? Other than obviously wtf???? I don't know if I miscarried or not, I just feel lost.

[EpicAlice]

You just got someone else’s letter by the sounds of it.
If you had been pregnant the blood test you went to the dr for would have shown HGC, although why go to the dr rather than do a HPT?

[Mygardenisaswamp]

Yeah as above, you've had someone else's letter. It's hard to get a referral for recurrent miscarriages even when you are 100% sure you've had them. I think your emotions about the abortion are playing havoc with you on this one - the letter is a red herring.