I'll try to keep brief. Really value & need honest opinions & advice.
Our neighbours came round yesterday to discuss boundries. during discusiion our kids played together downstairs in playroom & upstairs in bedroom. When they left their dd (4) wanted to stay & play with our ds's (4 & 5). We said it was ok.
Most of time they were in sitting room with us but then went back upstairs. Short while later my ds's shout for me to come - I go up to find the girl has cut chunks out of her shoulder-length blond wavy hair & has given herself a sort of mullet. I could have cried. I took her straight home & apologised profusely. The mum was at work. Dad obviously not happy.
I am very upset about it. I don't know what to do I'm a bit scared of the mum who seems to be well, quite stroppy & easily miffed. And this is no little thing.
- We are foreigners and while everyone is friendly, we're not very well involved & I was so pleased to have the girl round, both for our improving our neighbourly relations, but also to help our sons integrate with the local kids. Now I feel depressed we've messed this up & everyone will hate us!
- We don't have kids round often. Genuine question - am I supposed to supervise the whole time a kid is with us (she wasn't in the same room when her parents were here). Obviously a pair of scissors lying around is not ideal, but it was an oversight. but had big repercussions.
- would you be really angry with your neighbour if it happened to you?
- should we offer to pay for her to go to the hairdressers?
- what else could/should we do?
- we've apologised to the dad. mum was out all day. do we seek her out & apologise to her too or is my guilt making me panick & over react?
Honest advice appreciated.