my baby does nothing but cry ALL DAY!

[colnelcustard]

My 15 month old seems to do nothing but cry all day.

She doesn't sleep at night because she spends most of the night waking and screaming.

I don't know what to do. There is nothing medically wrong with her but its driving our family to the edge.

Can someone please help. I'm at the end of my tether with her.

[Giovannismama]

My 16 month old is a lot like that. He Cry's about every thing throws himself on the floor .. Screams if he can't get a ball that isn't his screams over and over its tearing my family apart I blamed my husband of not loving him equally because how fussy he is . with all the spoiling I've done ... I made this happen. He Cry's for an hour every night at the top of his lungs to come into bed with us . I just don't know what to do ... I tell him no he screams and hits he wants a dog at the park he screams and Cry's he gets on a swing and wants right off. He ha almost all of his teeth idk is this the terrible 2s or is he teething that I can't see ? Is he spoiled ? I learned recently from reading these other posts that I need to ignore him but he is just crazy loud and sounds like he's being murdered! I wonder what the neighborhood may think of me as a.mother do I scold him .. Reason with him or ignore him ? I don't know because I have tried it all and isn't working I try laying him down when he gets loud or out of control but he doesn't want to lye down so I let him cry a bit take him out and well he's bad again .

[SpeakNoWords]

You might get more responses if you start a new thread about this - this one is about 6 years old!

But, to answer your questions here....

Your son isn't being bad or naughty, try not to think of it like that. He's not spoilt, he's far too young to be spoilt, and blaming your husband isn't going to help either. At 16 months ish, he will understand a lot of what is said to him, but won't be able to say enough to explain what he wants. So that will make him frustrated and the only way he has of expressing that is to cry. You haven't done anything to make this happen, it's really common.

Please don't ignore him when he cries. He's trying to tell you that he's unhappy or cross, and ignoring that isn't going to help. This phase will stop eventually - all you can really do is keep being cheerful and positive with him, don't take it personally. Try and distract him with something else if he is upset - change what you're doing and where you are and move on from whatever is annoying him without getting cross. He won't understand "no" at the minute, and if you use it all the time it will lose its meaning and he will start to ignore it. You can't reason with him at this age, he's too young, and telling him off is also pointless. Try and focus on the positives at the moment. So,
For example, tell him when he does something that is nice/kind/gentle and make a big fuss of him, ask him to fetch something for you (is he walking?) and praise him a lot if he does.

If you don't want him in your bed, and he cries if not, then can you stay with him until he settles rather than leaving him to cry? You can do something called "gradual retreat" once he's used to you staying with him till he's asleep, which will mean you eventually can leave him to sleep on his own.

[Mynd]

I'm also wondering about silent reflux.

My DD was born with it and it went on for 1.5 years - right up until I stopped giving her dairy and acidic fruit. Never slept. Always had to be upright. The acid had really burned her throat and stomach, and I kept her off dairy until she was 3.5 to give things a chance to settle.

Now she's absolutely fine. But God it was a tough first 2 years!

[TheFormidableMrsC]

I do not mean to alarm in the slightest, but I had a child like this. He cried and cried and cried day and night, barely slept a wink. He also had reflux. At 2.5, he was referred for assessment for ASD. He has Aspergers and sensory processing disorder. Once I got the sensory things under control (he couldn't tell me what was wrong and everything "hurt") things were a million percent better. I just wanted to give my input and my own experiences under a similar situation. I can now say at 5, he's a different child thankfully. You have my every sympathy, it's horrendous dealing with something like this .