Help - I thought I gave a perfectly reasonable answer to 'how does the baby get in your tummy mummy?'

[HuwEdwards]

to DD4 (with DD1 6, who never ever, asked that question listening very carefully).

'The mum and dad' have a special cuddle' I said.

Now, whilst I'm happy to be a bit more explicit with DD1, what is a reasonable answer to a 4yo's more probing questions?

Such as today.
DD1 'what happens with the special cuddle' 'a seed gets passed from the dad to the mum'

'how?'

me - 'I'll have to get you a book to help explain'

Help!

[newlifenewname]

Rofl at Kathy6"!

I cannot really take much credit for the way it is explained in our house though as it was an evolutionary tale of evolutionary matters, i.e. I explained, the children added to that explanation and now we have a nicely honed version of events.

We are about to do bath and I'm going to ask them what they think of some new terminology...

[Kathyis6incheshigh]

No, there are too many Chinese girls called Min Min.

[Pannacotta]

How about Min Min, in memory of that HILARIOUS thread on here?

[pania]

Yes, I do think NLNN's explanation is very good - should have said so in prev post (sorry NLNN!)

Except I would say penis and vagina.

[HuwEdwards]

FGS women, keep on the subject! forget the terminology - surely we'll all use what we've brought our dcs up to understand. But what kind of language to explain the 'act'? NLNN, I'm liking your explanation.

[legalalien]

we just have "mummy's bits" and "daddy's bits"... and that mummy has "girl bits" and daddy and ds have "boy bits" that are different. should last another few months with a bit of luck.....

[pania]

Oh no, I can't bear front bottom, don't you think that sounds unclean? Vaginas are not dirty.

[MaryAnnSingleton]

what minnie,for girls ? not sure about that for some reason

[LaBoheme]

not front bottom no no no

we say mini fwiw, and I think I will say when that moment arrives - Daddy gave the baby to me and I made it grow...

[MaryAnnSingleton]

flowers have male and female parts too

[KTeePee]

lol at volvo!

[Lovecat]

Noooo! Not flower!

horrible flashback to 'fat'-Monica-trying-to-lose-her-virginity-episode of Friends

dd walked in on OH in the shower and asked him what 'that' was. He said 'Daddy's willy'. She ran off joyfully yelling 'daddy's willy! daddy's willy!' while we looked about shiftily for social services, but then she asked me the next day (no privacy in our house!) if my pubes were 'mummy's willy'... I said 'no, mummy's bottom' because, tbph, my mind went absolutely blank at that point.

Don't like 'front bottom' per se, but it's easier and more descriptive than 'bottom' in general and at 2.6 I'm hoping to avoid the 'vagina/vulva/volvo' issue for a year or so yet!

[EmsMum]

My DD loved "Mummy laid an Egg" and "Where Willy went" when she was about that age.

Heard the story about the little girl who came in from playing and asked "Mummy, where did I come from?". Unprepared and flustered mum starts in on explanation. Little girl listens politely and then says, "Yes mum, but where did I come from? Susie says she came from Colchester...."

[MaryAnnSingleton]

yup,agree with newlifenewname - I say boys willy too,so it's girls willy and boys willy -therefore the terms are equally between the two sexes.
I have to say that the correct anatomical names make me feel a bit eeww anyway...I once had to illustrate a book for girls about periods and drew all the parts with labels which was quite a feat for me !

[newlifenewname]

Shall I go ask them? I'll report back later.We can discuss at bath time. I personally prefer to leave the ultra correct terminology until they reach an age when they won't sound odd uttering vagina and penis. They get smiles when they talk about sex stuff in public using their infant language, I doubt they'd receive the same if they talked openly but using grown up words like penis and vagina.

"Mummy, what's that you are sticking up your vagina?"
"Just a tampon dd"

I find the above discourse freaky whereas front bottom sounds okay to me.

V. personal choice of course.

[doggiesayswoof]

Yes, I see the logic NLNN.
I'm afraid 'girl's willy' makes me cringe but then I am projecting my own right-on feelings which are totally irrelevant from a wee one's perspective. As you say it is a physiologically correct description!

[MaryAnnSingleton]

girls willy is general term for vagina/clitoris - this is what he understands at the moment - will be more detailed as and when he needs to know...

[nailpolish]

why cant you jsut say willy, vagina and clitoris? ok it should be penis but to me that is offensive

[newlifenewname]

Ah, but you see - these terms came from their descriptions and their understanding. And a clitoris although still a clitoris is a form of penis - we just give it a different name because it differs a little. We also refer to nipples as nipples in both men and women although their purpose is entirely different between sexes.

They aren't confused because it is their vocab.

[newlifenewname]

[doggiesayswoof]

'girl's willy' is very anti-feminist imo

You wouldn't say 'boy's clitoris'

[nailpolish]

girls willy for waht? vagina? or clitoris?
thats very confusing

[doggiesayswoof]

Well, I wouldn't say front bottom myself, but whatever your terminology of choice I still think a basic factual explanation is the way to go

[MaryAnnSingleton]

we say girl's willy

[legalalien]

[nlnn - no, is it any good?]