8 year old starting puberty refusing jammies

[bonnieweelass]

my almost 9 year old DD is developing breasts, had a bleed in july but nothing since.

She refuses to wear anything but pants in bed and wanders around the house, eg if she wants a drink before going to sleep.

I tell her repeatedly she needs to wear jammies because she is getting boobs and she needs to be private but she either refuses or throws her clothes off because she's 'too hot' in bed.

I got her new jammies that were lighter and a bit more grown up looking. she wore them happily for like 2 weeks and now she's gone back to just pants.

She flat out refuses to do what I say. In fact she argues back about everything.

What more can I do to get her to see sense? She has a sleepover on thursday night and I am worried about this. I'm seriously considering refusing to let her go.

[SilverNightFairy]

Threads like these always set alarm bells off for me....

She can do as she likes in the privacy of her home. I do not believe a 9 yr old would be comfortable without pj's at a slumber party.

[Boogers]

apparently paedos lurk in mn now getting their rocks off on these threads

Erm, a bit and not really. Paedophiles are attracted to children. You can talk about anything, seriously anything, from hiccups, dressing up, shoes, clowns, furniture, statues, living ornaments, leggings, the colour red, the colour blue, the colour purple, the film The Colour Purple - the fetishes are there and all we can do is not expose ourselves too much, especially with advanced searches.

For example, who knew that I was a Cameron loving, skydyving, quinoa, pulling freak who advocates speed humps between jn 64 and jn 58 of the M1. Who knew?

[Boogers]

BTW, we are a naked family. I estimate we have an about 21m squared mirror in our bedroom. We all prance around in front of it, from windmills to dancing to pop songs - exactly what's wrong with being naked? DD put a mirror to her vagina ages ago when she felt itchy and wanted to find out what she looked like down there. She's 7.

[Mymouthgetsmeintrouble]

What about a dressing gown to pop on to wear around the house but tbh if its only family at home then i dont see any problem

[NatureAbhorsAHoover]

OP I understand your POV, there's nothing wrong with bodies per se, but I do get the feeling that she should understand the need to be a bit more private at puberty. It's not as simple as some make out, especially if there are brothers/stepfathers/etc around. I'm sure the penny will drop soon enough; with age comes wisdom etc.

if she'll wear pj's at the sleepover that's the main thing, I guess? The naked rambling around the house is hopefully easier to deal with when it's just at home.

[Imgoing2killhim]

You should be happy that she is growing up without being embarrassed by her body and that she isn't developing the stereotypical, prudish English attitude.

It's just a naked body; there's nothing shameful about that so why should she cover up?

[Imgoing2killhim]

I'm pretty sure she'll wear a top to go with the knickers when she's at a friend's house; but within your own home yabu.

[Mybugslife]

Oh dear. I didn't know this was frowned upon, I'm currently sat here topless and I hit puberty quite some time ago haha. We all sleep naked here and will get up for a drink/toilet without putting on dressing gown etc.

On a real note though she should be able to do what she likes in her own room, I get what your saying about covering up when walking round the house, I guess more because it makes others feel uncomfortable rather than her?

If you've already explained why it makes you/other family members uncomfortable and have suggested a dressing gown etc then what else can u do? Give it a year or 2 and she'll probably want to cover up anyway.