Please help as I am really troubled by this and don't know how to address it. And am concerned that anything I do will make more of an issue of it.
DD 7 seems to have a 'fixation' with food. I don't know if that is the right word but am not sure what else to call it.
Firstly, she is very tall for her age (tallest in her school year) so recognise she will obviously need a certain amount for her growing body.
Secondly to say she enjoys all sorts of food (she's not a fussy eater I mean) and she loves all sorts of veg, fruit, fish etc.
That said I am really troubled by her approach to food and the amount she eats or wants to eat.
So during the week she has school lunches (and unfortunately they serve pizza and chips and bread) so I have little input into what she has and how much (packed lunch is not an option)
After school she has a healthy meal and some sort of pudding (jelly and fruit/ yoghurt/ fruit salad) so generally a balanced diet.
It's outside of that. If she goes to a party, and others have a couple of slices of pizza (or sandwiches or whatever) then my DD would eat 10. And be the last to leave the table. If we go on a picnic with friends she'll look at the food laid out and take two of absolutely everything, pile her plate high and then eat it in a really ungainly manner - like she can't wait to get it in her mouth it's hard to describe. If we go to someone else's house she will have as much as she possibly can (say 3 portions of pudding). I am finding this hard to write as its making me sad and I am not sure I am explaining the problem well enough. Sometimes she will eat something on her plate and I will say "how was the salmon" and she'll look at me blankly - she will have eaten it so quickly she won't have actually registered eating it.
We have just come back from holiday where we were at one of those all inclusive resorts and every meal was a buffet. Every single meal time she would pile her plate high with as much as she possibly could and then go back for more and more and more. She would eat more than me or my partner would.
She obsesses about treats and says that all her friends get more than she does. There is a local bakery for example and she says her friends get to go after school and she doesn't. I didn't want it to become an issue so said she could have something once a week - but that doesn't seem to be enough for her. What she doesn't notice is the amount she eats. Her friends come over for tea, eat a certain amount and then stop. But she doesn't ever have an 'off' or 'I am full' switch.
Has anyone been through this or have advice? She has put on a lot of weight and started to get comments from friends which have upset her.
I am trying hard to not associate food as 'getting fat' more that healthy food means nice hair, teeth, etc. (Ie I never say don't eat that you'll get fat)
I don't reward good behaviour with 'treats' ie I don't use food as a reward.
But it's getting worse. She has taken to wiping the plate with her fingers and licking them at the end of a meal (which I have been very stern about - am really strict on table manners) but it's like she just wants to devour food.
She does lots of exercise - cycling, swimming, tennis, dance but now says things like "my thighs are fat" which makes me really sad. She gave up gymnastics because she didn't like the way her body looked in a leotard.
Sorry this is a long post and I am not sure I have articulated the issue as well as I would like to. Any experience in this area would be welcome as I don't want food to become an emotional issue.
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onedayatatime73 · 20/08/2016 14:41
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