Why is my son this way

[Funkytown]

He is 15 months old and He's a handful to say the least , I don't even know how to describe him but I'll give you a list -
He's violent- he scratches, bites pulls hair throws things some times when upset other times just because he wants to hell run up to me smack me and run off.
He bangs his head on the wall the radiator floor washing machine what ever he can.
He's loud- so bloody loud even when he's just speaking not even shouting I get horrible looks when I take him out because of how loud he is I once had a woman on the bus tell him To shut up.
His energy levels are through the roof he doesn't stop moving he's here there everywhere touching grabbing smacking running climbing he doesn't stop all day.
He gets very excited he jumps up and down giddy with excitement when he sees something he likes (a dog for example) he grabs his face spins around and just flaps.
He doesn't sleep enough goes down at maybe 10 up at 6 with a 30 min nap in the day time.

One thing my partner and I have noticed about him is that you can always tell 'when he's on one ' his pupils go massive you can hardly see the colour in his eyes he just has a manic look on his face .

I don't even know what I'm asking really maybe someone else had a baby like this and can tell me strategies how to deal with it or stop it
I'm at the end of my tether and could really use some advice
Thank you

[Ineedacleaningfairy]

My ds had many of the things you mentioned at that age, the crazy energy, the loudness, headbanging, throwing, he sometimes bit, he was a challenge and I had lots of comments about his energy levels. I was worried and exhausted.

He's now 2, he is still high energy but he's much better at channeling his energy into activities and games and he can sit calmly when necessary, I remember having coffee with a friend who had a dd the same age as ds when the babies were about 10/11 months, my ds climbed out of the high chair and ran around the cafe screaming, I left my untouched coffee and went home thinking omg how are we ever going to cope, my friends dd say nicely in her chair and looked very intently at a toy, the poor little girl looked shocked and horrified at what ds was doing. We met up with the same friends yesterday for lunch, ds sat nicely and ate his lunch talking nicely whilst my friends dd climbed all over the table and chairs and jumped up and down. They really do change so much, I don't want to dismiss your concerns but sometimes toddlers are completely different a year or 2 down the line.

[Lucy61]

Your health visitor will be a good starting point op. They see so many children and have a good radar for when things aren't as they should be. They are able to make referrals directly eg. to paediatrician. Most are able to offer home visits, if you prefer.

What is his diet like?

[Funkytown]

I will have a look at the book and do some research on sensory issues (I pm not quite sure what hey are )
Thank you so much for you advice I'm feeling a lot more In control now I have some things to read up on and research

[girliefriend]

I have just read the out of sync child book and it has been a revelation!! Like you my dd had some 'issues' and I couldn't quite put my finger on what they were.

Your son sounds like he may have some sensory issues, I would recommend you reading the book tbh and if poss asking for an OT ref.

[Funkytown]

Polter I keep saying it to my sister I can't out my finger on what it is but something isn't right.
I'm just exhausted his dad's exhausted he's very draining I love him to pieces I just want to know why he's this way or what I can do to deal with it.

I wonder what the doctor will say/think

[Funkytown]

Thanks I'll have a look at the links you've given

Ferguson i wouldn't even know what to say or how to put it to the doctor/health visitor or what they would even be able to do ?

I see so many toddlers the same age as him so calm content walking nicely around the park or soft play and I look down at my hyper active wired child wonder what I've done or what can I do , everyone who meets him says the same 'oh he's wild isn't he or I don't know how you cope

[Ferguson]

Maybe tell your GP or HV, and if possible arrange for a professional to see him. Perhaps there is something in his diet, or allergens in the environment triggering his behaviour.

[Funkytown]

Any one ??

[Funkytown]

I'm sorry about the massive paragraph im on my phone