Went to a friend’s on the weekend as she was celebrating her daughter’s first birthday. Had a lovely time but felt a bit demoralized as I watched her daughter happily being passed from person to person. My daughter has just turned 1 and still cries if she is picked up by anyone apart from a very small group of people primarily made up of me, DP and her CM.
Her CM tells me that there are also 2 people at the children’s centre she takes her too who she will be held by although it took about 4-6 weeks before this was possible. She is also fine if my CMs son holds her as well as the mothers of the childminders other 2 mindees but again that took several weeks.
So I know she will eventually go to other people but she the fact that she initially cries hysterically if anyone else picks her up can be quite exhausting. On 3 occasions recently I’ve attended a friends house for a birthday or BBQ and have had to spend the entire time holding her as she will not go to ANYONE. She also will not initially be put down on the floor to crawl but will eventually after maybe 2 or 3 hours get down from my lap. At the birthday party on Saturday she cried when I tried to gently get to play with toys in the garden near the other kids. After about 2.5 hours she was finally happy to crawl on the grass, laughed and played peek a boo with other guests (but would not let them hold her even though I was close by).
The bizarre thing is when I take her to a local toddler restaurant (yep a restaurant specifically for toddlers – I live in very child centric area!) she will happily crawl off into the play area almost straight away. It is quite a hectic, busy environment with lots of children running and crawling around but she seems perfectly fine. She is fine at baby music classes and will crawl around. However if we are in someone’s house she becomes hysterical and clings to me.
Is she particularly sensitive? I think most of my friends kids of a similar age will happily go to and be held by people including someone they have just met for the first time. Anyone else have a child who eventually grew out of this? My mum tells me I was like this for a long, long time so maybe it is some kind of inherited trait...
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1 year old still cries when held by other people. It is exhausting.
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Eastie77 · 15/07/2014 13:30
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