My DD will be 5yo next month. bright, happy, very imaginative, articulate and often lots of fun. But I am feeling completely worn down by her unwillingness to go to sleep and dreadful tantrums sometimes. On the sleep, we start the whole bedtime routine at about 7 but it's often 9.30 before she's asleep. We've recently started encouraging her going to sleep on her own which she manages as long as we keep popping back in- however she has always been bad at going to sleep so I'm not sure this recent change has made any difference. She just doesn't want to give in. She does more or less sleep through til morning now though which is progress from almost every night in our bed.
She also has awful tantrums sometimes- today's example: one day a week I collect her and a friend from school and drop them off with a childminder so I can do a bit more work before collecting at 5ish (childminder has longstanding relationship and is great but collects from different school). So the other girl is nearer front of line and therefore gets to me first. DD then has almighty tantrum (not lying on ground so maybe not that bad but fairly 'emphatic') because the other girl was with me first. Refuses to move, stands there screaming, and tells me that she wants me and to leave this other girl there. Other girl stabs there completely bewildered. I feel awful for her because being horrible to your friends- even at 5yo- is unacceptable, I end up shouting at her in street outside school and feeling like crap, and DD just keeps going. Tried hugs, reassuring but tantrum continued for 25 mins while we walked across park to meet childminder.
what is normal? I know you never get to see how other children behave, but I know my DD also behaves badly with other parents, though not to the same extent. I know being picked up, rushed across park then dropped off is difficult for her (we do this 2 days a week and one of the other parents does the other day and not a problem) but I'm self employed and work in the evenings lot as it is- I can't lose this extra hour or 2. She's fine at school but often clingy when I try to leave- recent development. We also have tantrums about eating tea, things being 'wrong'- she often gets a very clear idea about how things should be and struggles when the 'plan' deviates. Exhausting, completely unpredictable and I don't think I'm managing very well. how muxh is this connected with sleeping 9.30-7 only- is this enough?
Sorry- long one. any advice welcome.
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clingy, won't go to sleep and sometimes appalling behaviour- nearly 5yo
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tallskinnylatte · 19/02/2014 16:04
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