Sleep when your baby sleeps - argh!

[philbee]

Does this enrage anyone else? I would love to sleep when my 3 week old sleeps in the day, except if I put her down she immediately wakes up. Are there really newborns or small babies who sleep beautifully in their cot / pushchair so you can get a kip? How?

[CabbageHead]

Yes a short napper here for a very loooonnnnggg time... Def recommend sling but get a good quality sling that doesn't hurt ur back as they get bigger, I had a wrap sling until DS was too big, he started to hate to go in it cos he knew he couldn't fight sleeping in it... Too cosy! Lol... He NEVER slept in car or pram, so cot and crib it was with LOTS of loud white noise, or washing machine... Also darkness helped... Try vacuum cleaner works for some... Pram or outdoors works for some bubs..

I would sit slumped in rocker with him asleep in sling on me while I ate my lunch watching tv whilst dropping crumbs in his hair!

Yes I still roll my eyes when I hear that phrase...' Sure sleep when bub sleeps... But what do u do when bub doesn't sleep...??!!' So annoying!

[babySophieRose]

My DD didn't sleep in her cot until she was two months old. Mosses basket next to me in the big bed during the day and sometimes she slept in her bouncy chair.

[Sunnysummer]

Exactly the same! M y four week old cries out in his sleep every 10-15 minutes, and barely ever sleeps more than 30 mins without waking up, to a total of about 10 broken hours per 24. DH and I now take shifts, he does from when he gets home until 1am while I sleep (waking me to feed), then I do the morning and then get up late. On the weekend my sisters come over for a few hours, which lets us both sleep and/or get out of the house.

Still not great though, and frankly I miss seeing my husband, not to mention being able to walk around without a baby strapped to my chest

[amyboo]

I. Never managed to nap during the day with DS1 (now aged 3). Now I have DS2 it's evenless likely to happen, as DS2 sleeping means DS wants my undivided attention!

DS2 is 12 weeks old (corrected age 4 weeks as he was brn prematurely) and he's just starting to manage an hour nap or so in his cot or bouncy hair. But DS1 would never be put down and didn't nap properly in hs cot until he started fulltime creche at 5 months..

[pudtat]

Yes there are and generally mine does quite well tho can still be hard. Never get more than 1.5 hrs and if you're trying to eat and nap in that time can be hard to esp as they usually wake early if you think you might be able to grab say 50 mins after. Use your OH and others when you can its the only way.

[BikeRunSki]

I'd love to, but what do I do with the 3 year old?

[MortifiedAdams]

See, DD went down like a charm in her basket pram or cot from day one. But I was so so highly strung that the thought of sleeping - what of she needed me?! - kept me awake

Only once she got to.about 14mo amd was having a good two hour nap.in the afternoon did I ever feel.unclenched enough to nap too. I do regret it, and now we are ttc #2 I know no matter how relaxed I am, I wont have the option to nap.in the day as DD will be around, not sleeping.

[PoppyAmex]

DD would not be put down during her first 4 months.

We made our bed safe and co slept; it was the only way I'd get some shut eye.

[Hermionewastherealhero]

I take duvet and pillows off our bed and put him next to me ( bed rail in place) we have napped like this since he was tiny- he won't nap in his cot.

[Robotindisguise]

Phil - have you tried taking the baby out in a pram to get her off? You may not be able actually to sleep, but you could get 20 minutes chilling on the sofa...

[10storeylovesong]

Yep, we have the same problem. House is a tip and I have bags like suitcases under my eyes. Our little one is 14 weeks now, but 13 weeks prem, and has been out of hospital for 5 weeks. When I asked HV advice I was told to buy a sling to do housework with, and basically suck it up about the sleeping.