Is it normal for one year olds to throw tantrums?

[Ridersofthestorm]

My almost one year old ds has started throwing tantrums and they are getting more and more frequent. I thought all this happened when they are two? Is this normal for his age?

He is normally a very placid and happy baby but obviously like all kids will on occasion play up for mummy. Grandma has just starred having him three days a week whilst I work pt, he is as good as gold for her, do you think this has anything to do with it?

He is also going through a huge learning to walk phase. He will hold both my hands and have me toddling all around the house. It starts as soon as he's up, which is fine, but if I even try and put him with his toys he throws an absolute fit. He pushes on me to get down to walk everywhere, if I don't let him he kicks off, throws himself back and cries. This is all fine, if not a bit wearing today because he's tired and still wants to walk, but the amount he has started throwing tantrums has increased.

He is a very aware baby and understands a lot of what I am saying to him.
I suppose he has just figured out how to get his own way? I mean how on earth can you discipline a one year old? I don't think he's old enough, other than telling him no and moving him away when he's trying to grab something dangerous. He even throws a wobbler at this now.

He's good for his dad, his grandma, who couldn't believe it even she saw him behave this way as he is so good. Is this all to be expected at this age?

He is all for me too, only wants mummy over anyone else. I suppose he just feels more relaxed with me to be himself.

Any suggestions or is this all perfectly normal and to be expected at age one?

Completely normal. It's just starting. Learn to ignore.

My daughter is the exact same right now. She pushes me when I'm carrying her and stoops down, she wants to walk holding hands most of the time but sometimes shoves my hands away like she can do it herself then screams the house down when she lands on her bum. She also back arches. I'm hoping its just frustration and when she walks it'll get easier

Sounds like he's a bit frustrated and desperate to get onto his feet! Do you have one of those push along baby walkers? Dd used to go round and round the lounge on hers, would keep her quiet for a bit. She would have lots of screaming rages at that age but the first 'tantrum' was about 14 months and completely took me by surprise - 20 mins solid of inconsolable screaming and throwing herself on the floor, it was the not being able to console her that was so hard. Now at 2.2 we're more used to them and they tend not to last so long.

He's got a walker which he now hates to be in but I don't have one of them push along walkers. I've considered getting one for his birthday so he can give my back a bit of a rest .

The routine of a morning is bottle, nappy change and then right onto his feet. We do the usual inspection of the washing machine, then toddle off to the front room to ride on his Thomas the tank engine rocker...all at 6 in the morning and I haven't had my coffee yet . If I refuse I get met with stamping feet and screaming. I better learn how to deal with this fast, so far I'm ignoring the behaviour but essentially giving him what he wants (more walking).

But it sounds like its all normal then this kicking off malarkey. His little personality is defiantly starting to shine through, I'm just glad it's usual for his age, phew.

Yes, it's normal.

I completely ignore, (unless he's thrown himself into something hard, then i'll check he's okay) then when they have calmed down try to help them, get a snack/drink/whatever.

DD grew out of it so I'm sure DS will too!

I do find there are flash points that if I am tactical I can avoid. DS hates getting into the pushchair if he hasn't been out of it for long. A tactical toy/drink/snack for him to hold onto distracts him before he starts and gets the straps on without fuss.

This was a surprise to me too OP - surely tantrums start at 2, I thought.

Thankfully, my DD has shown me the error of my ways

The push along walkers are great (if you have carpet- not so good on hard floors) and you can pick one up really cheap second hand. I got dd's from the tip shop for £2 and though she only used it for a short time I think it really helped her walking. When feeling really lazy I could sit in the middle of the lounge with one hand on it to 'steer' it and dd would walk round in circles for a very long time...!

I've got wooden floors throughout, and tiles in the kitchen so he might go skidding across it with the upright walker haha. It's worth a try tho , I know he would love it.

I'm learning that distraction is the key to getting him to stop screaming. I usually pick something up quickly to distract him, it's actually quite funny to see him just stop mid kick off to grab it. I suppose this becomes more difficult as he gets older. But generally ill ignore it.

He did test my patience today tho, he was using whinging to get his own way with almost everything. I just thought, you little brat, what's he going to be like when he's two?