I have a 4.5 yo DD and a 20 mo DS.
DD has always been a bit of a biter - in anger but also occasionally just out of the blue wen DH or I were playing with her, maybe a kind of over-excitement thing? She is now much better and only (ha!) bites DH and I and DS, and only in anger. She broke the skin on my arm on Sat and DS currently has two perfect crescent-shaped bruises on his upper arm which I assume are her work too :(
DS went through a stage of biting me during bfing when he was teething but in the last week or so has suddenly started constantly biting other children - he had a really good go at his (younger, smaller) cousin several times at the weekend and today his childminder flagged it up as an issue when I picked him up. I mentioned that he'd probably learned it from his sister and she said she thought DD was a bit old to be biting still.
CM also said last week that she thought I should be working on being firmer with DS and getting him to be more obedient eg she said that her other mindees will stand next to her patiently when getting them in and out of the car whereas DS repeatedly runs off.
I am not a completely permissive parent (I don't think) but thought all these things were within the bounds of normal child behaviour ... ? With the biting we have been saying no very firmly (little too firmly sometimes ) but am going to work on ignoring. For DD we had a sign up on the wall which seemed to work well. I do obviously encourage DS to do as I say but my opinion is that he's still little and doesn't always understand/can't always control his impulses when he does.
Grateful for any thoughts/suggestions on the biting (and disobedience I guess) issue.
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My children bite and are disobedient
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DitaVonCheese · 26/03/2013 17:18
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