would it be wrong to change my 10 month olds name?

[CharlottesClan]

when my son was born we were fixed on the name george.
a few days after he was born we fell out with one of our friends who was pregnant who wanted to use the name (after her dead grandparent)

well we went with charlie to keep the peace although we really didnt feel as fond of the name.

now we both really regret it. turns out my friend had a girl so we could use the name easy.

is it wrong to do this so late? should we just make do with what we decided?

[George2010]

Change it now - once it's done you'll not look back-George is a great name

[thisisyesterday]

change it, for sure

[nappyaddict]

Have you decided what to do yet OP?

[Hedwig3]

oliviacrumble

Your last post really made me laugh

Your children have truly lovely names ESPECIALLY Kitty...

Off to get my deed poll forms now

[yummymummie1]

you should defo change it its clear this is the name u want and you really shouldnt not have let your friend dictate to you about changing it i think you should just do it an the sooner the better

[Psammead]

Charlie is a nice name, but if it isn't for your son, it just isn't.

Definitely change it, maybe to George Charlie. I bet you'll feel better straight away! Give it a few months and people wont even remember his 'old' name.

And boo to your friend.

[CharlottesClan]

thank you guys, everyone else thinks im mad to change it so late.

i had was that i always wanted to call my daughter ellen 'eleanor' and just shorten it for our use. but i let dh name her ellen on the birth certificate because it was his 'turn' to choose as i had insisted on thomas for my first son.
to this day i wish i had stuck to my guns purely to give her more choice as an adult. (eleanor is more adaptable then ellen)
but as i still love her name its not an issue really, but if i feel like that over dd name, how will i feel about ds2 name a few year down the line??

i have been trying to ring the registry office all morning.. been engaged maybe everyone else is changing their babies names too

we are going to change it, will book the appointment for a next month to give us time to be 100% sure.

dd has already adjusted to calling him george, ds is taking more persuasion lol

[glencoe]

I say go with your heart and change his name. What does dh think about this?

I had a similar, although not as drastic, situation with my own ds's name.

Myself and dh had been settled on his name throughout my pregnancy (first and middle name). On the day we were having him registered, my dh decided he also liked the name Monty/Montague. I was sleep deprived and in that strange haze of having a newborn and a toddler, so I agreed with him. We loved the name we had chosen for him too much to change it, so added Montague as a futher middle name. To say it was a mouthful would be an understatement

Anyway, off we went and registered him. Later that evening I said to dh that I thought we had made a mistake. He agreed, and we decided to get it removed!

A word of warning though. It isn't quite as straight forward as it sounds as getting it changed within the first 12 months. We discovered that it can be changed on the short birth certificate, but will always remain as a permanent record on the long birth certificate and on registrar records. This proved awkward when we got him a passport recently and will be something that he will have to deal with for the rest of his life. Parents hey, you can't choose them

Regardless, I would still go ahead. It's more important to feel happy in the name you have chosen for him for the rest of his life than a bit of occasional hassle with paperwork.

Good luck!

[hellokitty123]

So, even if you change a child's name within the first 12 months, his original name will ALWAYS be on the long birth certificate and his passport?!

[maniacbug]

As a fellow name-changer (although slightly earlier, at 3 months) I am glad you have decided to go with your gut instinct! Weird, isn't it, how some names just don't feel right... And DS will get used to it: my DCs refused to call DS2 the new name at first but we persisted and kept saying 'Who's X?' whenever they used his old name, and now it's impossible to imagine him being anything else. I second hattee - it really was like a weight being lifted the minute we made the decision. Sadly though 'tis true, original name remains on full birth certificate. But how often does anyone need to see that?

[Cadelaide]

We changed DS2's name at almost 12m, you will have both the original name and the "new" name on the long certificate but only new name on the short certificate.

oddly enough, we changed his name from Charlie!

[CharlottesClan]

Rouso go for it. i feel miles better for doing it.

dh said it was ok, that he agrees hes not keen on charlie. feels very weird calling him george again (he was george for most of my pregnancy)

[hellokitty123]

Personally, I would not change a child's name at almost one year.

It is his identity and he knows his name. A child will grow into any name and poeple will associate your lovely son with it.

I really like Pavlo - much nicer and unique than Mike. Honestly!

My ds's middle name is Charles, so am biased towards that one too.

[Runoutofideas]

I have a George and a Charlie (although they are really Georgia and Charlotte!) so obviously I like both. If it makes you feel uncomfortable though then change it - or just call him George anyway without doing anything official.....My grandmother was Patricia but everyone called her Diana!

[anonymousbird]

Change it, though have no knowledge on the process, but sounds like others do.

PS. I am a bit biased, as I have a George, but it's not about that, it's about you making your choice, and clearly George was what you wanted and due to emotions/other pressures, you went with something else.

You can change it and your child will never know!!!!

[hellokitty123]

"You can change it and your child will never know!!!!"

Of course your child will know - not only will the original name still be on his birth certificate and passport, but I also think that a one year old knows his name, it is part of his identity.

I'm not saying it can't be done, but I'd think through the consequences carefully before rushing into a decision.

[toddlerama]

Hmm, I really , really wanted to change DD2's name (I was in tears regularly over it!) but DH was adamant that we weren't. NEITHER of us were crazy about her name, but he said it wasn't worth saddling her with extra admin for the rest of her life (known by any previous names....) and she would grow into it. I was really peed off about it, but he was right - I now think her name is perfect for her even if it is n overused name. The 'wrong' name may not really be that big a deal after a few more months.

[wahwahwah]

In our family, half of the men are NOT called by their given names. Very confusing but not all that unusual in Scotland.

[CharlottesClan]

he is actually answering to george already, as i just say it with the same tone. i dont believe he knows his name as such, otherwise he would just blank me unless i said charlie.

im not saying the transition is going to be easy, but i did occasionally call him george (usually at 2am when tired) so im my eyes he always has been george.

[wahwahwah]

Ahhhh. Go for it. I'd rather have a little Georgie than a little Charlie!

[ASecretLemonadeDrinker]

I'd go with George if he sort of is George. I think it is silly though people 'hogging' names - I would think nothing of using the same name as friends DC, even close relatives. There is a huge amount of Patricks on my mothers side! People move on, nicknames come into play, and goodness me people sometimes have the same name! DS3 may use DS1s middle name as a first name, bit of a bugger but if he is a Patrick then fair enough.

[CharlottesClan]

well we already have a thomas and a cousin thomas the same age as we had already named the bump before we knew that my cousin was going to be called that lol.

it wasnt so much hogging as that she was really horrid about it, insulted my daughters name and insulted me as a parent. so i had alot of bad feeling and upset associated with the name.
i wish i had of just called him it anyway and changed it if it really was unbearable

you live and learn right?

[WhatsAllThisThen]

I have friends who did this. Wasn't a big deal. Go for it! You'll regret it otherwise.

[nappyaddict]

Cadelaide and Rouso what was the original full name and what is the full name you changed to/want to change to?