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MrsR5P · 07/10/2016 22:13

My son was born in May and my husband and I decided to call him Harry as we couldn't decide on a name. I wanted to call him trystan and my husband wanted to call him Harald. I compromised and said I was happy with Harry. My husband said he didn't like it as it reminded him of Harry Potter but settled on it as we couldn't agree on anything else. We registered him as Harry but my husband doesn't seem to be getting on with the name and still makes digs about how he doesnt like it. I also didn't want to use a popular name but felt I had no choice as we just weren't getting anywhere! I feel like I can't continue calling him Harry as I know that my husband doesn't like it. I have tried talking to him about it but it always ends in an argument as he won't drop the name Harald (which I really don't like). Any suggestions on how I tackle this? Name suggestions would be greatly appreciated too!

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Pipilangstrumpf · 06/11/2016 08:54

Some of you are being very harsh on here. Both parents should like their son's name. If the op's dh doesn't, then considering changing it at only 5 months is the sensible thing to do.

But you both need to find a name you both love!

daisypond · 05/11/2016 20:13

I think Harald is great! The A instead of the O in Harold gives it a different feel. Can you change his BC name to Harald but call him Harry at home? I personally don't like Harry as a BC name, though it's lovely as diminutive.

Badgoushk · 05/11/2016 20:07

What did you decide OP?

MrsR5P · 30/10/2016 08:30

Yes that's right. I don't see how it's a compromise as he is just getting what he wanted? Harry was never on my list of names so this isn't about me getting my own way....

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heebiejeebie · 30/10/2016 08:06

You said earlier that he was happy to him to be known as Harry if it was short for Harald?!

MrsR5P · 30/10/2016 07:56

My husband knew from the outset I didn't like the name Harald and he also agreed to register him Harry. There is no compromise at the moment as he doesn't like Harry and I don't like Harald. I feel this is something we should agree on.

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NotYoda · 30/10/2016 07:47

I agree with heebie

heebiejeebie · 30/10/2016 07:45

I think you're being more unreasonable than him

You want to call him Harry

He wants to call him Harald, nick name Harry.

You won't allow this - which seems like a pretty good compromise.

MrsR5P · 30/10/2016 07:43

No my son doesn't seem to respond to his name at the moment, I have tested that one out! We did have a pet name for him when I was pregnant and it was hard to start calling him Harry when he was born but we managed it so I know it's possible. I do like Arthur and I have put that to him but all he said was that he liked it and that was kind of it. I'm really going all out to try to resolve the problem but perhaps most of you are right and he just wants his own way.....

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Badgoushk · 30/10/2016 07:33

What about...

Arthur Harald

BertrandRussell · 30/10/2016 07:20

But he's 6 months old- surely he knows his name? Doesn't he have things with his name on? Tell your do to stop being a dick. or a Harald

EsmesBees · 30/10/2016 07:19

Agree that the problem appears to be your husbands attitude rather than the name. If he's happy with Harald but nickname Harry to me that just says all he wants is his own way at your expense. Personally, I'd be telling him to like it or lump it.

SnaggleBeast · 30/10/2016 07:12

I got autocorrected there. I meant Haral.

Allshadesofpinkie · 30/10/2016 07:12

I can kind of relate to this OP. When we had our second child there was a name I loved but partner just didn't like it at all so we picked another that we both liked. I thought of dc as loved name while pregnant so it was an adjustment to use actual name.

By the time your son is at school I would guess he would mostly be known as Harry anyway if he was Harold. And it's a great name.

SnaggleBeast · 30/10/2016 07:11

Oakley is a pretty common name now.

I know of two of each Loki and Thor if he's into Scandinavian names?!

How about Harald or Haldan? They could both be shortened to Harry.

MrsR5P · 30/10/2016 07:06

I think we have decided that Oakley and Trystan are out of the question as we both dont like each name. I could compromise to giving him the middle name Harald but I really really dislike it as a first name.

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FoxesSitOnBoxes · 30/10/2016 06:41

The time has passed for renaming. Imagine being the poor kid at school called Oakley Harald and knowing that you used to be called Harry. I'd be a little miffed about that to be honest.

NotYoda · 30/10/2016 06:25

Sorry, did not read this page!!

Please not Trystan. It's so wet

NotYoda · 30/10/2016 06:25

I think he had a lucky escape fro Harald and Trystan/Tristan

But I would change it to Harald of he's willing to use the NN

MrsR5P · 29/10/2016 21:31

I have suggested using Harald as a middle name and hubby seems up for it. Now the hard bit is choosing a new first name!

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SnaggleBeast · 29/10/2016 21:11

I far prefer Harald to Harry

Squashberry · 29/10/2016 21:05

Could you use Harald as a middle name and choose a different first name ?

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GiddyOnZackHunt · 28/10/2016 16:21

Can't he call him Hal or Harri or Harald without fussing about the name on the bc?

Didula13 · 28/10/2016 16:14

please stop worrying about it....I think your husband should come up with a name that you both like since he is the one who doesn't like the current one...

stonygreysoil · 28/10/2016 10:05

OP, i sympathise. A lot of deep emotions can get brought up with names, especially when there's a family connection, and both parents wanting to feel they have an input.

What your son's middle name? Any potential for compromise there?

If not, why not agree with your husband that the birth cert gets changed to Harald Harry MN SN?

I'm sure with time he will get used to using Harry as a NN for a little boy and in the meantime he can use Harald.

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