Slightly irritated

[Steph1502]

I know people come on here to ask opinions and expect genuine opinions from members. However, I think some folk are just plain rude. If you genuinely like a name then go for it. Everyone's opinion is different and once you've named your baby that, people are less likely to be pass remarkable about it. Some folk forget that these are real names and members on here may have already named their child some of these names and it may be quite hurtful to hear your child's name be described as 'drippy', 'boring' or even 'horrendous'. Maybe the hormones are getting to me but if you don't like a name... Simply saying 'it's not something I'd choose' or giving an alternative suggestion would be suffice

[lastqueenofscotland]

I think actually its quite useful, if you get universally "EEEP NO!!" responses to a name it could give you an idea of hoe people might react to a child of that name. if that makes sense.

Slating names of kids already named needing names for siblings is cruel

[reuset]

If you are such a delicate flower that you are upset by a random internet stranger saying they don't like your child's name, then maybe this forum is not for you.

This indeed! I don't understand why you'd personally give a fig about the vehemence of a poster's dislike or how they express that dislike. Sure, you might not like their style, but it's the same in a lot of areas in Mumsnet.

I prefer honesty, however it is delivered. Far preferable to the saccharine 'your bubs your choice hun' posts.

[DefinitelyMaybeBaby]

I agree if people ask for an opinion on a name you'll get all sorts of opinions and you've given people free range to critique.

What annoys me is threads like:
OP- "I've got a 3 year old DS called Harley and expecting again, what names go with Harley"
Comments - "Nothing coz it's an awful name?"..."Davidson?! snigger"..."Wallbanger?"..."Street"

Like, that OP did not ask people to slag the name they already choose 3 years ago and obviously are not going to change now! It's unnecessary and wasn't asked for.

[LouisaB1990]

I agree! Sometimes there is no need to rip someone apart. Giving an honest opinion is fine but it's when someone slates you

[CruCru]

MN is quite rude sometimes though. I'm often surprised at how vicious people can be about quite innocuous things.

[parsnipbob]

Mathanxiety well I don't like the name Baylor, but just to give an example I love the name Tiger. But to some on MN calling your child that would amount to child abuse.

It depends on where you live IMO. Where I grew up and where I live now there are tonnes of kids with unusual names, and they won't get bullied because it's relatively normal here. Conversely there was a girl at school called Amelia who got bullied for having a 'posh' name.

[GrrrrrBear]

OP yanbu (even though this is not AIBU ). People are really nasty sometimes. I'm always posting that it's ok to disagree with an OP but there is no need to be nasty about it. I'm not sure mumsnet is the place for me sometimes. I find it weird that some posters seem to enjoy being nasty. It's pathetic.

[thelastthneed]

DD's name has been mentioned as a boring name, but we love it and can't imagine her being called anything else...

[mathanxiety]

'that name is disgusting, don't do that to your child, they will be bullied etc etc'.

That surely expands in a useful way on the very generic 'I don't like that name'?

Some children rhyme names and cause hurt in the playground, and does any little girl really deserve to be named Baylor?

[mathanxiety]

*Disclaimer -- Gloria is not necessarily a name I dislike.

[looki]

This forum really needs a warning before opening it - if easily offended step away now :)


I tend to like reading the harsh opinions/replies that IRL people think but wouldn't say out loud. It has influenced my name choices but I don't necessarily think that is a bad thing as I didn't come to the forum and create a poll for people to just nod along or shake their heads at my choices. I want opinions - the good and the bad that until I post I am unaware of.

[mathanxiety]

My point is, there's a difference between giving an opinion and just being plain rude.

Imo it's all in the eye of the beholder.

'I don't like the name Gloria'
may upset the mother of a Gloria every bit as much as
'Who in their right mind would name their child Gloria, I mean Gloria ???'

[Steph1502]

Lol... Exactly. Not everyone is gonna like the name and it's fine to say no don't like it or whatever but to use some of the descriptions I've seen on here since I joined the forum is just unnecessary

[AwfulBeryl]

and at typos

[AwfulBeryl]

Oh and my ds names get slated all the time on here, one for being too poncy the other for being a dogs name that doesn't bother me tbh, obviously it's just a matter of opinion and that's what baby names is for - sharing opinions. It's when people stick the boot in that it pisses me off.

[AwfulBeryl]

I agree actually op, I don't know why people have to be so cunty.
There was a thread recently where the op's sister "stole" her baby name, she was due in 4 weeks and had told her sister the name intended for her ds. Sister had a baby before her and announced the name on fab.
Some of the comments were uncalled for - basically calling it a chivvy name. I don't see the need for it. I am not a delicate little flower, I just don't like to see people being counts for the sake of it.

[Steph1502]

Lol good for you xx

[Pomegranatemolasses]

Well I've just heard many negative comments about dd's name on kipper's thread. Still felt compelled to come on and justify why it's an amazing choice!

[Steph1502]

Lol I agree but was there really any need for that person to say something like that? I also agree that if you're gonna put a name out there then Defo expect some negative 'reviews' lol

[KipperTheFish]

I have asked about a name because I don't think people would give me an honest answer in RL, and it's a slightly unusual name. I'm not in the slightest bit offended if people don't like it, but I am interested to hear thier views.

[MehsMum]

Being tactful is far better than being offensive.
Well, yeah. But to an extent, you need to suck it up if you're going to wander about on an open forum. I was reading a baby names thread and someone popped up saying, 'Euw, no, that name reminds me of XXXX name, which is just the absolute worst, dreadful never use that for a baby!' And XXXX name is DC3's.

So I just shrugged and thought, well, you've got no taste.

[Steph1502]

Like I said, difference between an opinion and being rude. Being tactful is far better than being offensive.

[ch1134]

I don't understand why you'd go on a baby names forum asking for opinions if you didn't want opinions. If you want everyone to agree with you then start a thread called 'only comment if you like the name...'. But why bother with that? I'm always confused when people ask for opinions and then get offended when they get opinions. Baffles me.

[Steph1502]

I'm away to start another thread just now with my advice. Feel free to come and rip the idea to shreds... Or not lol xx

[Steph1502]

My point is, there's a difference between giving an opinion and just being plain rude. Some of the comments were awful to be honest. Yes people come here to ask about names. I actually do have advice to ask about my name that I've chosen plus I love to hear all the suggestions. No matter what forum you're on there will always be a difference of opinion. But some people have no tact. Manners cost nothing IMHO