Hi
For those of you who have had a TFMR or who have discovered a defect but have continued with the pregnancy I would really appreciate hearing about how you came to the decision. I know this is such a personal choice but ten days following bad news I still feel like I am no closer to making a choice.
Our baby has a heart problem that is fixable, and di George - which may be severe or may not be. The spectrum of symptoms is huge.
My husband wants to keep the baby but says he would be behind me in any decision. I believe him but don’t think even he can be sure he won’t have resentment going forwards.
I am so torn. I don’t want the child to have a hard life, but what if he is fairly healthy and happy? When I feel optimistic, am I just in denial?
I’ve phoned arc lots of times, have spoken to max appeal and we have gone to therapy, but I still just don’t know. I am 26 weeks and if we want a termination I have to really push for it on Tuesday.
I don’t know what I’m looking for really, just some insight into how others managed to come to and make peace with a decision that is probably the most important decision anyone would ever have to make...
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TFMR - still can’t come to a decision
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Wombleofwimbledon1984 · 29/02/2020 12:22
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