My lovely lovely friend

[faintpinkline]

This morning I saw my friend as I wandered along the pavement close to tears (as usual at the moment :( ). She knew right away something was wrong so stopped me and i just collapsed on her, told her i was 13 weeks pregnant, suffering AND and basically not coping.

She took me home, made me a cup of tea, changed my sheets, put me to bed then sung to me as if I was the baby until I fell asleep. I woke up 3 hours later to find she'd cleaned the kitchen and living room, run a load of washing and hung it up, been shopping for basics and made me lovely vegetable soup and hot rolls for lunch. She didn't say a word about the horrible state of the house but I can't believe how kind and fantastic she was.

I hadn't eaten properly for a few days and was so ashamed of the house and it was as if she knew and understood everything without me having to say much

Feel so much better just for sitting in a clean living room, having had a decent meal and for having had extra sleep. So ashamed of myself for letting the house turn into such a rubbish heap though

[OutMeAndDie]

What a wonderful friend you have. So sorry about you first child. I hope you are able to have a lovely birth this time.

[JaxTellerIsMyFriend]

Talking about it afterwards definitely helped me - and the reassurance of all the health care professionals around me was a godsend.

Good luck, if you want to chat at all feel free to PM me anytime.

[faintpinkline]

Thank you both of you. Jax it really helps to know your next labour was so much better. I was sick as well during - was very glad when i finally got a shower

My consultant has arranged for me to see a senior midwife at hte hospital so I can talk through what happened before and she will go though my labour notes with me. Maybe undertanding better will help me when the time comes

[JaxTellerIsMyFriend]

faintpink I had a difficult pregnancy with my first, and a horrendous labour too, pretty much as you described but with added sick and body going into total shock!

My second pregnancy was a whole lot better, enjoyable even and the birth experience was 100% better. I was terrified - spoke to my Dr and midwife about first time and they were amazing, kind, supportive and reassuring.

I am sorry for the loss of your first child, so very sorry. I hope this time you get lots of help and support from Drs etc and you feel more positive soon.

Take care of yourself. (hug)

[CheerfulYank]

Oh, so lovely of her.

Of course you're nervous, darling! The only experiences you've had have not been wonderful ones. I'm so sorry for the loss of your first. :(

I think this one is going to be so much better. Lots of luck and glad your friend was there when you needed her.

[faintpinkline]

Sorry should have given detail:

First pregnancy resulted in 38 week still birth which was never explained.

Second pregnancy was medically difficult and I was induced at 37 weeks partly because of the medical problems partly because of the previous still birth. The induction took ages, first pessary was put in on Tuesday morning, then another then Wednesday morning had to have waters broken by midwife, the on drip and nothing happening until 8pm Wednesday night when suddenly got terrible contractions and went full 10cm in 40 minutes on only gas and air then my memory blacked out and can't remember anything else until baby was there.

this time I'm just scared, scared, scared and feel like going into a room and not coming out until baby is safely here

Sorry don't know where all that came from. I feel so silly and illogical

[salmonskinroll]

How absolutely lovely. I have tears in my eyes.

What's wrong lovely? Sorry things have been hard for you. We all let things get on top of us at times. X

[JaxTellerIsMyFriend]

What a fantastic friend you have.

Want to talk about what is getting you down? Lets see if there is anything that 'we' can help with.

[SpottyTeacakes]

Aww I don't know anything about AND or your situation but she sounds like an amazing friend and I'm glad she has made you feel a bit better