to stop my self from losing it?

[maighdlin]

Very bad day today. Usual crap, money family etc. Have been at boiling point since nine and DD done a massive poo that went everywhere. So i stripped her off cleaned her and let her have some nappy free time for a while. She has been in a moany mood today, (crying from about 7)and just generally be a pain in the bum, she has just mastered crawling and pulling herself up, and like i said i was at boiling point. Anyway i decided to get her dressed again as i couldn't face cleaning up another pee, and she protested madly at this. Kept trying to roll over and get away screaming the place down, pulling off her tights and everything. I just lost it shouted at her (guilt is immense) and bust into tears. She then screamed some more at i just threw the tights and went into the other room to calm down. I phoned my husband to get him to talk me down from the ledge and he heard DD crying in the background and then gave me an earful for leaving her. I HAD to leave to stop me from completely losing the plot and IM the bad guy??

Im having real trouble coping at the min. Everything seems to be going wrong and DD is at a really exhausting stage, the crawling explorer with no sense of danger. I NEED some time out. The worst of it is when i try to talk to anyone all they say is "oh it will only get worse." Thank you for that condescending advice. I need help NOW!!

AIBU for asking to be able to make sure i don't end up in a loony bin? She was perfectly safe when i left her im not that bad, i just needed to take a moment for my self.

[mrsruffallo]

Well done for spelling losing correctly, it's a rarity on MN these days!

[diamondsandtiaras]

absolutely the right thing to do and I know exactly how you feel. It won't get worse, by the way, just different! Children are going to be hard work no matter what age they are, it's just a different type of hard as they get older

you sound in serious need of some me time.......can you leave LO with hubby at the weekend and have an afternoon to yourself?

[Librashavinganotherbiscuit]

You absolutely did the right thing.

[RespectTheDoughnut]

YANBU. Much better to leave her somewhere safe on her own & calm down than keep at it & end up with you both in tears.

& it doesn't get worse. Not overall, anyway. I mean the no sense of danger thing doesn't fix itself any time soon, but the sense of humour, talking, seeking you out to give you proper cuddles & kisses... That's all just around the corner

[Morloth]

Better to leave her for a bit than to snap.

I used to plonk DS1 in his cot sometimes and close the door/go out the back/have a hot shower/call my Mum to come over whatever. He would scream blue murder but what can you do?

It will get better as she can communicate more.

Sometimes you need a couple of minutes to get your head together and take deep breath.

[TubbyDuffs]

I have a crawling menace too; its bloody hard work isn't it.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with taking yourself away for a minute or two to calm down. I put my daughter in her cot with some toys and just leave her for 5 minutes sometimes. I don't feel guilty. As long as baby is clean and fed and you know there is nothing wrong with her I don't see why it would be a problem.

Let your husband spend a bit of alone time with her whilst you take yourself off somewhere for a coffee or a bit of shopping/pampering time. He might realise it isn't all plain sailing!

[haribomum]

yanbu maighdlin infact you did exactly the correct thing. i have been given this advice from a hv. make sure babs is safe and leve the room to calm down. nouthing wrong with that.

hope your ok that age is exausting! can your husband give you a day out soon?

[mumblechum]

Absolutely nothing wrong with leaving her on the floor in a safe room to calm yourself down.

When mine were that little and driving me nuts I'd leave them for ten minutes in the playroom (totally baby proofed), get a cup of tea and go into a room out of earshot.

And it won't only get worse. In many ways the fun stage (talking etc) is just about to start.