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help me get my head round this.. not sure if IABU

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ladylargeofnorks · 22/06/2010 12:42

so S&BiL have had a load of stuff from us for their baby, great, we cleared out pram& pushchair, cot, baby car seat, washable nappies, bath, boucy chair etc. it was beneficial to both of us and we were very happy to do it.

baby is now older and passed the age for the next stage car seat, I now know she has been waiting for us to offer our old seat (ahich we have still because we hadn't got round to getting rid of it)
I thought that was a little presumptious, but hey I really didn't think I minded.
But then she has just called up and asked if we could take down the next age of clothing as the little one has grown out of the clothes we have give. Oh and have we finished with the stroller so they don't have to buy one

So - thoughts going through my head.

They have a much larger household income than us and it is not as if they can't afford to buy some clothes.

We don't need the clothes, so what am I bothered about?

It just isn't sitting straight with me and I think IABU but part of me wants to forget to take the clothes but that isn't actually resolving the things going through my head..

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AlCrowley · 23/06/2010 09:38

Only if it's a girl tortoise. DS is 3 so if she has a boy, then we'll be OK.

Although my sister is a bit of a shopaholic so she'd probably appreciate 'needing' to go shopping all over again for a girl even more!

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tortoiseonthehalfshell · 24/06/2010 03:51

Ah, yes, indeed.

TBH, I was quite happy when my free clothes ran out, because I was really itching to go buy clothes and couldn't justify it.

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thumbwitch · 24/06/2010 04:05

YANBU really - as many have said, it is the presumption - but also it's the "hey, it's ok for YOU to spend your money on the stuff but there's no reason for US to as well". Bet they didn't offer to buy any of the things for your DC, or contribute, did they?

So they are being tight, ungracious and presumptuous; and it doesn't matter a rat's arse whether or not it's family, they should WAIT to be offered and be GRATEFUL for it, not expect it and try to hurry it along.