About 50% of people RSVP'd. Normal?

[PrammyMammy]

Is this normal? We are holding a party, at a function to celebrate our engagement.
The party is on Saturday. We invited 100 people, I posted all the invitations to people i couldn't hand them to, 3 weeks ago. I put my number and email for RSVP.
The only people i even heard from were our friends, my parents and my aunt and uncle and dp's parents.
So that brought the numbers to around 50.
So we canceled the buffet, and went with snacks on tables.
But, it turns out that there are 2 mini buses running, 24 seats on each, so the other half really, from my dp's side. His parents have arranged the buses.
No one rsvp'd lol. We haven't heard from any of them at all, not a word. Is this just how things work? I've never held a big party before so could be totally off with what is expected.

[PrammyMammy]

Well, that settles it then. It really isn't so hard to communicate with people.
Dps mum was here about half an hour ago, and was asking the date of my DDs baptism so she could start inviting people. I just said i will be sending the invites out soon. She must like organizing things.

[notyummy]

It is incredibly rude! It really annoys me when people do this. There are a (very few) people who have a reasonable excuse (i.e I have a sick child who may need to go to hospital; I am in the Army and on standby to leave the country etc) apart from that it is at best disorganised, and at worst bloody rude people who do this.

A personal bugbear of mine - we had this for DDs party last year. Her best friends Mum (who I knew to say hello to at nursery) never RSVPed or turned up, despite me asking her DH towards the day of the party when I saw him picking her up. FGS, if you dont want to come, just say you've the GPs over or something - but just let people know!!

[princessparty]

We've had a family dinner for about 40 people this weekend and SO many people wouldn't commit themselves to whether they are coming or not ,until a couple of days before. All things like 'oh well so and so should be able to come but they will be working that day'.Well surely they know what hours they work?.
I had to cook food organise seating cutlery glasses ,in the end everyone turned up but it is just so unreasonable to mess people about like that!

[Coldhands]

I hate this. We catered for many of DHs family for our wedding and none of them turned up or bothered to let us know. This sort of thing really pisses me off. I would be tempted to cater for the ones who had replied and if others came, say "oh we didn't think you were coming as we didn't hear from you".

I think what Tidybush said about assuming they are not coming on future invites is a good idea. With texting/ e mail etc there is no excuse not to let someone know.

[TidyBush]

Congratulations on your engagement.

They are very rude IMO - I'd take this a warning for when you get married and add something on those invitations like:

RSVP to XXXXX
by XXXXX

"otherwise we will assume that you are unable to join us."

Bit harsh I know but it really annoys me that people just assume that you can accomodate them.

We had a party for my parent's golden wedding anniversary and had all kinds of random extra relatives turn up who hadn't even been invited. Luckily they ate the food that that would had been left over from the ignorant gits who didn't turn up.

Anyway - enjoy your party and just provide lots of s

[WidowWadman]

Why did they RSVP to parents and not to you? And why on earth did parents not pass on the message?

FWIW, I've chased up replies from people who hadn't RSVPd to our wedding invite a couple of weeks after the deadline but a couple of weeks before the event, so I could finalise figures for the buffet.

[TrillianAstra]

Teeling your DP's parents is not the same as telling you. Morons. And why didn't they pass on the message?

[PrammyMammy]

We called dp's parents on Friday, and they told us that they had all RSVP'd to them, and that they had already arranged everything, and 'not to worry'.
I'm just thinking that now we probably could have done with a buffet. I also don't know what to say to them when they arrive. "Hi, thank you for coming" or "Hi, oh, i didn't know you were coming".

[fandango75]

not normal no - i would phone around if i were you and check so you can be sure congratulations!

[TrillianAstra]

I wouldn't lol at that personally.

How incredibly rude to arrange a bloody minibus without having said they were coming.