A year or so ago my friend found out that her unborn baby had down syndome. She decided to terminate at about 19 weeks.
Well TBH, very little has been spoken about what happened. All I know, is that the baby was a girl. She never really went into any of the details. Which I totally understand and have never pressured her to speak about.
Well recently she has started to talk about it much more. I think partly because she is pg again and has found out that the baby is fine. But when she speaks, I think she assumes I know all the ins and outs of what happened.
For example the other day, she mentioned when she was in labour with the baby. I was totally shocked, I didnt realise that she had to give birth to the baby as she would if the baby had been well. I was so shocked I just kind of skirted around the topic. But really wanted to talk about it and ask her what she went through. Not to be nosey but to try to understand more of what she went through. There s no wonder she was in such a state.
So how do you think I should approach the subject. Has the moment passed? AIBU if I ask her about it. And did I hear right? Would she have had to give birth to the baby?
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cheekster · 27/07/2009 00:42
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