to be annoyed at people reading my notes?

[NotTHATmental]

Have used my "spare" name for this as don't want to get anyone into trouble...

Last night, my friend was drunk at my house and said she had a confession to make. She has looked up my notes on the social work computer system (she is some kind of clerical assistant for children's services). She was laughing when she said this, and said she had done it a while ago and had been dying to tell me. she says there is nothing bad on there and in fact it says that I am a very capable mother and there is no need for concern, plus the names of the social workers who have been involved with my family (due to my mental health issues, we have been checked up on a couple of times).

At the time, i was a little bit shocked, but said i didn't mind as I knew there was nothing bad on there anyway. but now I think about it, I am a bit annoyed. i don't want people I know to be able to look up details of my family!

This has happened before, with my mental health notes, my mum is a mental health nurse and a couple of times has let slip that she knows when my next doctors appointment is, before I have even got the letter! So I know she is reading my notes too.

AIBU to expect these things to stay between me and the relevant people? I know these two people could lose their jobs over this, and there was nothing I didn't want them to know in the notes (at least I don't think there was-I've not read the notes myself so not sure what is in them, and have very poor memory of what i get up to during an "episode")but still, it's not good is it?

[TotalChaos]

If you don't want to dob her in, you could phone up the relevant person in social services and explain what has happened, so they know to keep an eye out for people on fishing expeditions.

[Madsometimes]

Awful awful awful. The children's database goes on-line today, and snooping like this needs to stamped out NOW! YANBU, I think you should report them. They may well lose their jobs, but this culture of snooping has got to go. I hate the thought of people I know looking up my children on this database "for a laugh" .

Wonders off wandering how to get my chilren's details sheilded (have a sinking feeling that is only for children of celebs).

[BalloonSlayer]

Erhm . . . don't want to make this any worse than it is, but could there be repercussions on the OP if it is discovered some other way (ie not by the OP complaining) that the OP's friend has been accessing her records?

Might it look as if the OP has asked her friend to have a look?

Might be worth making a complaint methinks.

[junglist1]

What a nasty thing to do. I'd think twice about telling her any of your buisness from now on, you can't trust her