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to feel very, very guilty after I screamed at the dog?

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LolaTheShowgirl · 06/09/2008 11:04

He is old, almost blind, apart from seeing blurry shadows and deaf unless you really shout. I don't know if he is going senile but for the past 6 months or so if i'm not in the same room as him he barks in this very high pitched, very loud, screamy voice. He wakes me up with it and from the moment I leave the kitchen (where he lives) after breakfast he starts again. I've tried controlled barking (same as controlled crying!!!) but he can go on for up to an hour and I can't stand it for that long. This morning he woke me up but ok, I have patience and sympathy for him because he's old and has been my loyal pal for all of his life so I went and gave him a cuddle but since I left the kitchen he started up again for the last 2 hours and i'm at the end of my tether so I just went and screamed at him, smacked him bum (not hard) and then pushed him in his basket(again not hard) and said some horrible things. Now I feel so guilty. I'm thinking while i'm upstairs now he could die and our last memories would be of me being a monster to him. I know he's just a dog but he's been around since I was a little girl but I really don't know what to do with him and having him around the house with me isn't an option because he wees everywhere.

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SecetMnetter · 06/09/2008 14:47

TBB, lololol, seriously though I am now fuming with my dogs they have done it again. I have contemplated cutting a hole (for their tails) in disposable nappies before now. I could really do with some of those.

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Tittybangbang · 06/09/2008 13:39

dog nappy

I would get him one of these so he can be with you around the house.

Poor dog.

Poor you!

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ethanchristopher · 06/09/2008 13:20

go give him a hug and some treats

i know its frustrating but think of him as just a grumpy old human and you can sort of relate

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JFly · 06/09/2008 11:23

Don't feel too bad. I know what it's like to shout at your hound and then feel so very guilty. BUT, I just try to remember that they have very bad short term memories! You'll feel bad about for much longer than he does.

Maybe have a chat with the vet about drugs. There may be something that can keep him more relaxed in his old age and less likely to howl/bark.

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SecetMnetter · 06/09/2008 11:17

Lola, I know it feels like you are giving in letting him in the rest of the house, but it would at least give you some peace. I bet as soon as he is able to be in the same room as you he will quieten down and chill out. My 2 do this, as soon as I let them back into the dining room where they can see me, DD, DH etc they shut up and have a nap.

Really though don't feel guilty.

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cheesesarnie · 06/09/2008 11:14

lola dont feel like a bitch.if i was kept awake by howling/barking im sure id get to the point where i shouted!go give him a hug

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LolaTheShowgirl · 06/09/2008 11:14

Maybe i will just let him about the house. Oh no, there he goes again. The noise is making me senile I can say! If it was his normal bark it would be fine but this screaming bark is just awful.

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SecetMnetter · 06/09/2008 11:11

Apologies for my spelling mistakes.

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LolaTheShowgirl · 06/09/2008 11:11

i'm so pleased you understand jvs. I feel like a complete bitch but when he's disturbing my sleep i'm a very tired and miserable human to him!

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SecetMnetter · 06/09/2008 11:10

Aww I know how you feel. I shouted and screamed at my 2 dogs yesterday (But they had weed and pooed in the bathroom while the back door was open to the garden. I was not a happy bunny. I imediately felt guilty for it.

Go and give him a hug and one of his favorite treats.

Can you not let him in the rest of the house for a bit, maybe he is just old and lonely. I know my two will bark and whine when I have to lock them in the kitchen. especially seem as they have the run of the house most of the time.

Don't feel guilty I bet he has forgotten all about it.

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jvs · 06/09/2008 11:09

We had a very old dog who the vets thought had gone senile..... he started her on diazepam (i think it was) for overnight just to stop her howling... worked a treat for us and gave us another six months of sanity before she died. Guess you are being a little un-reasonable but can understand why having been in the same situation!

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LolaTheShowgirl · 06/09/2008 11:09

they just say he's seeking my attention because he's got seperation anxiety.

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cheesesarnie · 06/09/2008 11:06

have you spoken to the vets about his recent barking thang?

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