to think that my MIL should know my name?

[sherbetdipdab]

and that she shouldn't constantly call me by DH's ex-wife's name?

It really upsets me, but maybe I'm over sensitive?

[Ronaldinhio]

yanbu
but my entire family get my dd's name wrong and my dh's name wrong

[TwoWindyDays]

always refer to her as Great Granny, when corrected tell her she is being oversensitive. Next time she calls you exW's name smile and say it was your nick name as a child and always makes you feel special warm fuzzy when its used.

[Weegle]

crikey I thought it was bad enough that my MIL can't spell my name after 8 years. Definitely the sort of woman who needs you to be upfront to her face, and failing that, play her at her own game.

[Cies]

That's bad. My MIL also can't spell my name, but she does have the excuse of speaking another language.

I'd second the idea of telling her straight out that it upsets you. And get DH to tell her again.

Poor you.

[ThinWhiteDuchess]

What a nasty old bag. She's definitely doing it to get a reaction. My MIL used to call me DH's exW's name, but she always realised her mistake and apologised. She stopped once we got married & had DD.

I agree that she needs to be told directly and assertively to stop doing it.

[ThinWhiteDuchess]

Many congratulations btw

[Cappuccino]

oh but people do this

YABabitU unless she is generally a cow

my mum's aunt used to start with the name she used most and then work down, in the same order every time

so it would be (for my mother, let's says she is called Pam for the sake of this exercise)

"So I was saying, Polly Mildred Margaret Kathryn Pam"

for me it was "How are you today, Polly Mildred Margaret Kathryn Pam Cappy"

every single time

[snowleopard]

My ex's parents both used to call me by my sister's name (I grew up in the same street as my ex so they knew my sister).

My MIL now cannot even remember her own son's (DP's) name. She often calls him the name of her dog! And the same for DS.

Your MIL probably can't help it, but she should recognise that it upsets you and say sorry. So YANBU!

[ipanemagirl]

yanbu, my friend gets this all the time from her FIL. Last time he did it 3 times in one hour she told him if he did it again she'd leave the do they were at in protest, she was laughing as she said it but he knew she meant it.

I think it's nerves on his part, particularly when both women are present! He's so busy feeling awkward it just comes out...

[Wickedwedgiewoman]

lol cappuccino. My own dm does the same thing. I'm the youngest, have a brother and sister, and she always calls me by their names before my own.

And no, she's not senile..she's just really bad with names. She often cals my dh by my brothers name too.

[notcitrus]

Depends on whether she's bad with other names, or just yours.
My mum calls me by my dad's or guardian's name half the time.
My MIL calls MrNC by a similar girl's name most of the time, despite having had 41 years to get used to the fact that he's not a girl. Fortunately he's very camp anyway and just finds it amusing.

[Upwind]

My SILs are Mary and Kate. Mary is always Kate-Mary and Kate is invariably Mary-Kate.

Puzzling

[mumoverseas]

as she is old and german call her Eva Braun (hitler's totty!) and see how she likes that one!