Hi
i just really need to let this out as the frustration has been building for months if not years! Slightly complicated situation in that we live on a farm and recently swapped with the in laws to live in the main farmhouse, in laws now live a few miles away.
my MIL means well and is a kind person however she appears to have no understanding of boundaries or invading peoples privacy. She doesn’t work and recently most days whilst I have been at work has been letting herself into our house and making and serving food for my husband, his brother & FIL. Last week she used all of the jacket potatoes that I had meal planned for us to eat that evening and so I returned home from work to find my planned evening meal had gone. Today I returned home from work to find she had turned our heating on at lunchtime and left it on all day so I returned to a sweltering house where 7 hours of heating had been left on unnecessarily!
my husband sees absolutely no fault in her ways and can’t seem to grasp that I need personal space and might not appreciate my things being moved around or our space being intruded whilst I am away at work. MIL is disorganised, chaotic and will drop in with absolutely no notice regularly.
I know this may be a traditional way for farming families to operate but I am struggling to cope with the intrusion as a person who enjoys their own personal space and wants to be able to relax on their days off work. I feel it is putting a lot of pressure on our relationship and is largely the only thing we argue about however my husband will simply not acknowledge or respect my feelings about this.
any advice appreciated
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Hellohola98765 · 17/04/2024 23:39
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