I am the youngest of my siblings. Growing up I got on really well with all of them. As adults I get on really well with them except 1. It’s not that we don’t get on, I just feel he doesn’t want to know his family.
We are working class, from a tough estate. We’ve all grown up and got quite decent jobs, and are doing alright. This DB has a really good job, very professional, and married someone professional from a MC background, who went to a top private school.
DB and I live in the same major city, at the other end of the country to our parents and other siblings. He lives 30 mins from me. Our DC are not too far apart in age.
I feel like he doesn’t want to know us. Me, or my siblings. I’ve invited him and his family over, and he declines. I was in his part of town for the afternoon and asked a week in advance if he wanted a coffee, and said he didn’t see my message. Sometimes he messages me if our parents are sick, and I call him, but he doesn’t answer. However I have 2 ticks instantly on WhatsApp messages meaning he’s got his phone to hand.
I just feel so sad that he doesn’t want to know me, my family and my birth family. My DC have never once had a birthday or Christmas present whereas I bought his. He seems to hold us in contempt. There’s been no fall out or issue. I blame him, but do think he’s a bit controlled by his wife. I was really stuck once and asked if I could stay the night (19, between accommodation) and she said no!! I slept on a friends floor.
I feel like I’m waiting for him to change, or throw me a fish, but he doesn’t. My DH think his behaviour is pretty crap, as he’d do anything for his Sis. If my other siblings lived 30 mins away, I’d see them loads.
Not sure what I’m asking. I’m beginning to think that I should just forget about him and leave him to it, rather than be sad. If he wasn’t my brother I wouldn’t bother with him.
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UpsetSisterSledge · 17/04/2024 16:56
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