Solve this one for me MNs- some hussy trying to nick my fella.

[mumblesmummy]

Longish story but it gets there in the end, bear with me.

So MY Dp is perfect in every way as I've said a million times, we just click together and are very happy.

I'm 33 weeks pregnant (almost) and he thinks the world of me, our bump, and he's marrying me next year. Fandabbydozey.

However, his job contract has come to an end and to avoid moving far away he's been searching for a job. He could take one which will start in a few weeks but it's a low wage but a lot of hours and very close by so he's on call for when I go into labour and close for the baby.

Or he could take another which is about 45 minutes away, a much higher wage and probably quite a lot of hours. Sounds good doesn't it?

So he'd phoned up about it and had an appointment to go and see the woman about it today. However, past few days he's been a little off and wound up and stuff. I didn't know why, so last night in hormonal rage I shouted at him about it and suddenly he was back to old him. After he admitted something.

He said he didn't want to go for the high piad job.

I didn't get why, so I asked and he said he didn't like the woman he spoke to on the phone. I laughed it off and told him not to be silly.

Which was when he told me that his friend who works there (who had got him in the job in the first place) had told him that this woman makes it her business to sleep with all the men she employs, and that if he flirted a bit the job was his, guaranteed, but that she'd try to get into him once he worked there.

Also, she'd made her intentions very clear in the phone call with my DP and she'd finished the phone call with 'so call in on Wednesday so i can take a look at you' and people in the back ground started laughing. He said she was really obvious.

He's still going to go to the meeting. Which I wasn't bothered about because he'd not a cheat and can be trusted, and he doesn't want to let his friend down, so he wants to look like he's atleast trying.

I'm now starting to get a little pissed off and territorial.

Am I being unreasonable and what should I do? I've not told him I'm bothered, I've just laughed it off, so he seems a bit calmer about it but said if she acts like it when he's there, he's leaving.

[FluffyMummy123]

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[Willowwisp]

He can't be 'taken' if he doesn't want to be!

[hercules1]

I don't understand that. I occasionally see 'hot' men and possibly despite being over 30 on occasion said 'hot' man might look at me and consider me as being 'hot'. That doesn't mean we then leap into bed together...

[mumblesmummy]

Oh she made her intentions VERY clear. I know exactly what was said and I was quite upset about it. But I'm just going to pretend it didn't happen because he made it very clear that he wasn't interested.

He definately can't be nicked, but to be honest, since I'm 7 and a half months pregnant and looking somewhat beached whale-ish, I just didn't like the thought of anyone trying it on with him. I'm so proud of him though, for telling me and being so grown up about it all.

He definately doesn't try to make me jealous, he always plays attention down.

Beeper- Thanks, I know he's great and rare, and I definately didn't think there was a man like it until I met him. Plus my family absolutely love him.

For everyone who said about her being a poor woman working with men and acquiring a name for no reason, I can understand why everyone's said it because I used to work with all men and got a name for no reason at all because I never went near any of them. It was horrendous. However, this was most certainly not the case with this lady, as she has said some VERY inappropriate things. If a man had acted like that with me, I would have reported him. Somehow it's very different and seems somewhat socially accepted for a female boss to act in this way.

On the money front, I know it's not everything, but we need to pay off our debts so that we can get a mortgage, so we do need the money. It's turned out for the best really. He's got the job, he's made it clear he's unavailable, he's got the possibility of going into management, and we've got no secrets and worked through it together. So all for the best really.

[StripeyKnickersSpottySocks]

I just find it odd that a woman would be making her intentions clear with a man she hasnt met. I mean she could meet him and think he's a right gimp and not be the slightest bit attracted.

[mumblesmummy]

She started off already flirting on the phone, but when they met to sort out hours and benefits, she obviously liked what she saw. Anyway, it's done now and we're sorted so it doesn't matter. She got knocked back and that's all that matters.

[Monkeytrousers]

she got knocked back but still gave him the job? She sounds like a female David Brent.

[mumblesmummy]

No the other boss (male) gave him the job, he just had to go to her to sort out the hours and benefits and things, so she didn't get a say.

[harleyd]

funny thread