So common theme here but my dc is born a few days before xmas.
We visited family this week doing the pre Xmas visits and present exchange. Some close family have given both my dc a Xmas present but no extra bday present or card, another gave both dc a Xmas present and a seperate birthday card but no seperate bday present.
Appreciate bday is next week but post strikes etc surely you would give both at same time??
I feel upset for my dc I know they are only 1 but it's setting a precedent isn't it.
AIBU unreasonable to say something? How would you word it.
AIBU?
To say something about dc's present
Frostysnowlady · 14/12/2022 11:14
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLPalacepicker · 15/12/2022 06:38
If you spoke to me like that I wouldn’t bother with any gift. You just took the joy out of the giving.
JoshLymanIsHotterThanSam · 15/12/2022 06:28
As the parent of a Christmas baby I always made it plainly clear he was not to receive a joint birthday/Xmas pressie unless he requested it. And birthday presents to be wrapped in birthday paper.
It sucks enough to have your birthday At Christmas without people failing to acknowledge it too.
aSofaNearYou · 15/12/2022 13:07
Not the December/January baby’s fault that an enormous commercial festival means people overspend. If they were born in September they would presumably get something.
birthdays should be far more important than tat-mas son my view
But again, it's not about whether it's their fault, it's about whether people can afford it. Not everyone overspends, many people are broke purely because of all the different people they have to buy something for.
In this case I would probably stop buying either kids Christmas presents and just get them birthday presents. But the expectation that they MUST do both or they are being thoughtless is unfair imo.
OnceAgainWithFeeling · 15/12/2022 13:35
Nobody “must” buy for anyone. We don’t buy for 6 out of 7 nieces and nephews. Don’t buy for parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, postie or window cleaner either. It’s a much better way to do it IMO. (15 years and counting.)
aSofaNearYou · 15/12/2022 13:07
Not the December/January baby’s fault that an enormous commercial festival means people overspend. If they were born in September they would presumably get something.
birthdays should be far more important than tat-mas son my view
But again, it's not about whether it's their fault, it's about whether people can afford it. Not everyone overspends, many people are broke purely because of all the different people they have to buy something for.
In this case I would probably stop buying either kids Christmas presents and just get them birthday presents. But the expectation that they MUST do both or they are being thoughtless is unfair imo.
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