So I have a weird situation…
When I married my ex husband, I took his surname as I hated my surname because it tied me to my abusive father.
Ex husband is the father to my three children, so they also have the same surname. We are now divorced and both remarrying. My ex husband is considering taking his fiancés surname as he doesn’t want any ties with his toxic family and would prefer not to have the same surname as them, as obviously o don’t want to keep my ex husbands surname when I marry again 😬
The problem is that if I take another surname…[not sure whether I will take my mothers surname/my new husbands surname/ double barrel my mums and husbands surnames yet but I know I do not want my old (fathers) surname or my ex husbands]…and my ex takes his new wife’s surname, then my three children will have a am that nobody else has??
My ex has said he doesn’t care what I change their surnames to…but I genuinely am stuck with what to do.
We are also expecting a baby which will have my fiancés surname so will be different to my other children again.
congratulations if you got this far 😂😂 and pleaaaaase can i get some opinions because I’m super confused right now 😬
AIBU?
To consider changing my childrens surnames?
Audienceofone · 30/09/2022 09:17
Am I being unreasonable?
44 votes. Final results.
POLLeyeteevee · 30/09/2022 09:38
i feel like maybe changing mine and my childrens name to my mums surname and then possibly double barrel when I get married would be the best option?
Change it to your mums name but don't change it again. There is no need to double barrel, you can just have the same name as your children without changing it for yet another man. What happens if it doesn't work out, do you change their names again?
No. Get one name for you and your children and keep it.
wellhelloitsme · 30/09/2022 09:56
Change you and the kids' names to something you like, your fiancé can take that same name when you marry (there's no reason you should take his name rather than his taking yours) and the new baby can have it too.
Then you, the kids and your fiancé have the same name without double barrelling etc.
I can't see an issue with that plan?
OverTheHillAndDownTotherSide · 30/09/2022 09:33
This is why women should keep their names/change their names to something they like and name their children that. All this switching and changing in order to accommodate men’s names is ridiculous.
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