I have been to the loo in Mc Donald's and was mid flow when a dad walks in with his daughters aged about 4 and 6.He stands waiting while his daughters are using the toilet. I came out and said you are not supposed to be in here.
He said he had to take his daughters to the loo and I told him that he needed to either wait outside or take them the mens. He said they don't need to see that and I told him that he shouldn't be hanging round in women's toilets for any reason. His sense of entitlement gave me the rage so I told a member of staff. I can only imagine how triggering that could be for some women. Intrusive fucker.
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Dad in women's loo .
HappyDays40 · 04/06/2022 14:02
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLThepossibility · 04/06/2022 23:46
And I'd be mad if my DH took my DD into the men's, she doesn't need to see dicks.
Lockheart · 04/06/2022 23:46
This thread is a prime example of why the rest of the internet / the real world regards Mumsnet as being totally off-the-scale insane.
Thepossibility · 04/06/2022 23:46
And I'd be mad if my DH took my DD into the men's, she doesn't need to see dicks.
Lockheart · 04/06/2022 23:46
This thread is a prime example of why the rest of the internet / the real world regards Mumsnet as being totally off-the-scale insane.
Blossomtoes · 04/06/2022 23:42
There may be children in the women's toilets who don't have a parent there and who are vulnerable to strange men waltzing in
And the man in the OP didn’t want his daughters to be those children. How are they vulnerable by virtue of the mere presence of a man? If that was the case they’d never go anywhere.
ChocolateHippo · 04/06/2022 23:37
But the girls in that case are accompanied by a parent who can protect them.
There may be children in the women's toilets who don't have a parent there and who are vulnerable to strange men waltzing in.
In both cases, there is a risk. In only one case do the children have a parent to protect them.
Discovereads · 04/06/2022 23:34
Laughable! So the “not all men are a danger” argument applies to what up to a half dozen lone strange men in the mens room towards two very young girls but not to one dad with two girls by his side to the up to a half dozen women in womens room. Hypocrisy at its finest.
ChocolateHippo · 04/06/2022 23:28
It’s also a bit disturbing to me that you, a man, are arguing so passionately to have little girls in the mens toilet btw
It is offensive generally to men to make out that most men's toilets are not suitable places for young children. It suggests that a majority of men are incapable of behaving appropriately around small children. Some may be, but many fathers (probably the majority) take their young children of both sexes into the men's toilets without any problems at all. No doubt they would take exception to being viewed as negligent parents. It is inappropriate to try to shut down Simonjt as 'disturbing' just because he is arguing that many of the concerns suggested on here are unfounded.
Discovereads · 04/06/2022 23:38
And some posters, myself included, have asked their husbands and been told yes you can see dick in the mens room. I have asked for clarification as to how often this m would be in the specific situation of a 4yr old or 6yr old child coming in and he said their chances of accidentally seeing a naked penis is 10% if individual urinals with side barriers and 50% if it’s a trough type urinal.
Simonjt · 04/06/2022 23:32
If we’re waving our willies round so much, how come the only ones I’ve ever seen are my own and my sons? How come some posters who have asked their husband (I’m aware this is a crime on MN) have also said they haven’t seen any willies? Are we using some magical
mens toilets that you haven’t been to?
Discovereads · 04/06/2022 23:29
The difference is that womens toilets have private cubicles. No one is regularly getting their genitals out in the common area unlike in the mens toilets. You cannot directly compare the two as if it is the same situation in regards to risk of being flashed by the opposite sex.
Simonjt · 04/06/2022 23:19
How many men have you surveyed? Why does taking me children to the toilet make me passionate about having children in the mens toilets? Does it make mums passionate about taking children to the womens toilets?
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Tandora · 04/06/2022 23:36
It’s unbelievable isn’t it.
Discovereads · 04/06/2022 23:34
Laughable! So the “not all men are a danger” argument applies to what up to a half dozen lone strange men in the mens room towards two very young girls but not to one dad with two girls by his side to the up to a half dozen women in womens room. Hypocrisy at its finest.
ChocolateHippo · 04/06/2022 23:28
It’s also a bit disturbing to me that you, a man, are arguing so passionately to have little girls in the mens toilet btw
It is offensive generally to men to make out that most men's toilets are not suitable places for young children. It suggests that a majority of men are incapable of behaving appropriately around small children. Some may be, but many fathers (probably the majority) take their young children of both sexes into the men's toilets without any problems at all. No doubt they would take exception to being viewed as negligent parents. It is inappropriate to try to shut down Simonjt as 'disturbing' just because he is arguing that many of the concerns suggested on here are unfounded.
Simonjt · 04/06/2022 23:32
If we’re waving our willies round so much, how come the only ones I’ve ever seen are my own and my sons? How come some posters who have asked their husband (I’m aware this is a crime on MN) have also said they haven’t seen any willies? Are we using some magical
mens toilets that you haven’t been to?
Discovereads · 04/06/2022 23:29
The difference is that womens toilets have private cubicles. No one is regularly getting their genitals out in the common area unlike in the mens toilets. You cannot directly compare the two as if it is the same situation in regards to risk of being flashed by the opposite sex.
Simonjt · 04/06/2022 23:19
How many men have you surveyed? Why does taking me children to the toilet make me passionate about having children in the mens toilets? Does it make mums passionate about taking children to the womens toilets?
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Discovereads · 04/06/2022 23:34
Laughable! So the “not all men are a danger” argument applies to what up to a half dozen lone strange men in the mens room towards two very young girls but not to one dad with two girls by his side to the up to a half dozen women in womens room. Hypocrisy at its finest.
ChocolateHippo · 04/06/2022 23:28
It’s also a bit disturbing to me that you, a man, are arguing so passionately to have little girls in the mens toilet btw
It is offensive generally to men to make out that most men's toilets are not suitable places for young children. It suggests that a majority of men are incapable of behaving appropriately around small children. Some may be, but many fathers (probably the majority) take their young children of both sexes into the men's toilets without any problems at all. No doubt they would take exception to being viewed as negligent parents. It is inappropriate to try to shut down Simonjt as 'disturbing' just because he is arguing that many of the concerns suggested on here are unfounded.
Discovereads · 04/06/2022 23:34
Laughable! So the “not all men are a danger” argument applies to what up to a half dozen lone strange men in the mens room towards two very young girls but not to one dad with two girls by his side to the up to a half dozen women in womens room. Hypocrisy at its finest.
ChocolateHippo · 04/06/2022 23:28
It’s also a bit disturbing to me that you, a man, are arguing so passionately to have little girls in the mens toilet btw
It is offensive generally to men to make out that most men's toilets are not suitable places for young children. It suggests that a majority of men are incapable of behaving appropriately around small children. Some may be, but many fathers (probably the majority) take their young children of both sexes into the men's toilets without any problems at all. No doubt they would take exception to being viewed as negligent parents. It is inappropriate to try to shut down Simonjt as 'disturbing' just because he is arguing that many of the concerns suggested on here are unfounded.
ChocolateHippo · 04/06/2022 23:28
It’s also a bit disturbing to me that you, a man, are arguing so passionately to have little girls in the mens toilet btw
It is offensive generally to men to make out that most men's toilets are not suitable places for young children. It suggests that a majority of men are incapable of behaving appropriately around small children. Some may be, but many fathers (probably the majority) take their young children of both sexes into the men's toilets without any problems at all. No doubt they would take exception to being viewed as negligent parents. It is inappropriate to try to shut down Simonjt as 'disturbing' just because he is arguing that many of the concerns suggested on here are unfounded.
ChiselandBits · 04/06/2022 14:09
at 4 and 6 they are a bit young to go in alone and given the mens' will have open urinals I can see his dilemma. Its a Macdonald's loo not a changing room - can adult women really not cope with a man who is obviously in charge of young girls and cares about their welfare being in there for a few minutes? Ideally there would be a family room or accessible loo but if he'd used that he no doubt would also be in the wrong.
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Discovereads · 04/06/2022 23:29
The difference is that womens toilets have private cubicles. No one is regularly getting their genitals out in the common area unlike in the mens toilets. You cannot directly compare the two as if it is the same situation in regards to risk of being flashed by the opposite sex.
Simonjt · 04/06/2022 23:19
How many men have you surveyed? Why does taking me children to the toilet make me passionate about having children in the mens toilets? Does it make mums passionate about taking children to the womens toilets?
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Simonjt · 04/06/2022 23:28
Ah, because I’m not agreeing with you, I see. Well, you just enjoy continuing to invite men into womens toilets.
Tandora · 04/06/2022 23:25
its not that- it’s the way you are behaving on this thread.
Simonjt · 04/06/2022 23:20
Ah yes, because you taking your children to the toilet is okay, but me taking mine is disturbing. I hope your childrens dad is banned from ever taking them to the toilet as clearly if he did that would be most disturbing.
Tandora · 04/06/2022 23:19
It’s also a bit disturbing to me that you, a man, are arguing so passionately to have little girls in the mens toilet btw
this. And he’s a bully and I wish he would get off this thread.
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