To not want the dog ex buys to live with me?

[Tampoli]

DS is 17 in a few months, since he was very young he's wanted a dog and he now seems responsible to look after one. My ex has mentioned buying a dog for his main present which I could do but he's also said that the dog will live with me and DS full time as he works full time and I only work part time but I do also have a 3 year old to look after.

Aibu to not want the dog to live with me?

[KatherineJaneway]

@gamerchick

Wtf dug this up? Especially as the OP never returned.

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[themonkeysnuts]

If your son wants a dog he can have one
When he has his own house , full stop !

[Backstreets]

The cheek of your ex!!! As if the only thing preventing you from getting your son a dog the last decade was finding one

[gamerchick]

Wtf dug this up? Especially as the OP never returned.

[FictionalCharacter]

ExH is an idiot. It’s not OK to buy a dog as a present, it’s a member of the family. It’s doubly not ok to buy a dog to live in someone else’s home, and make that someone else look after it.

[Stressfordays]

I got a dog for my 16th birthday. Apart from the initial excitement etc. I barely did any of the looking after. I was 16 and too immature. Difference is, my parents knew this when they bought her for me and didn't realistically expect me to look after her for her entire life. I left home at 21 (leaving her behind) and she sadly passed away when I was 31.

Basically don't get a dog for a teen unless YOU want a dog. Because they are basically going to be yours.

[Emotionalsupportviper]

@Tampoli

DS is 17 in a few months, since he was very young he's wanted a dog and he now seems responsible to look after one. My ex has mentioned buying a dog for his main present which I could do but he's also said that the dog will live with me and DS full time as he works full time and I only work part time but I do also have a 3 year old to look after.

Aibu to not want the dog to live with me?

YANBU!

I LOVE dogs - we have three. I, personally, would hate not to have a dog - but I appreciate that other people often don't have the time of the interest for a dog.

Your ds is 17 - he is mad or a dog now, but in a year or two may be at university, or madly in lurve - who is stuck with the dog then? YOU ARE.

It isn't fair on you, on your toddler or on the dog.

Stick to your guns. Say "no".

[Murdoch1949]

If your ex buys it for son, the dog lives with him. 17 year olds will not trail a dog round with them on their social jaunts, so the dog would be left in the house, with you if you give in! 17 yr olds are OUT more than IN.

[Zanatdy]

buying a dog for a present is unreasonable full stop. It’s almost a guarantee that the kid will bore of the dog pretty soon and not walk it enough, so unless you want to take on the responsibility of the dog (as let’s face it you can’t just let the dog suffer with no walks to make a point to a teen) no don’t get one. Your child can get a dog when he’s got his own place if you don’t want a dog

[ThinkWittyThoughts]

ZOMBIE THREAD?!!

Op posted in May....

[NadjaCravensworth]

@ittakes2

I'm a bit confused - your son has wanted a dog since he was very young and now you think he is responsible you don't want him to have one because he lives with you full time and that would mean you would have a dog full time? Your ex paying for the dog is a red herring - this is about your son owning a dog while living in your house.

Op doesn't want a dog

[Crumpleton]

I wouldn't let my now DH force me to have a dog so I'd be blowed if I would let an ex.

[2bazookas]

Don't do it. In another year or two DS will be off the nest, away to college or a job, and he won't take the dog with him. You'll be lumbered with a dog you didn't want for the next 10 or 15 years.

[KettrickenSmiled]

My ex has mentioned buying a dog for his main present which I could do but he's also said that the dog will live with me
😂😂😂

Small wonder he's an ex.
Does he have form for making decisions for you, & expecting you to accept them?

[Beautiful3]

No way, it will end up being your responsibility. My kids promised me they'd take turns walking ours, and picking up poop from the garden. They've done none of those things. I would never get another dog again.

[Ikeptgoing]

OP @Tampoli hasn't returned to thread after her first post?

Really it's not for ex to buy a family let then dump it in OP. If OP wants to buy a dog she will. If ex buys a dog then it lives at his house. If he can't take care of it that's his doing not OPs.

I would return any dog an ex sent to my house back to his house. Where he can keep it for DS if he wants but it's ex's responsibility not mine.

[Sswhinesthebest]

Worst idea in the world.

[Cherrysoup]

A puppy? So you’d have to do all the work? No way. He can’t just buy a dog and expect you to look after it, that’s totally outrageous.

[blueagain]

Do you always let your ex bully you?

[Shinyandnew1]

@Tampoli

DS is 17 in a few months, since he was very young he's wanted a dog and he now seems responsible to look after one. My ex has mentioned buying a dog for his main present which I could do but he's also said that the dog will live with me and DS full time as he works full time and I only work part time but I do also have a 3 year old to look after.

Aibu to not want the dog to live with me?

Of course you are not being unreasonable.

Have you not said this to your ex-does he thinks you are happy with the idea???

[blueagain]

No!!! Who’s paying for vets bills, insurance, food etc. what happens when you want to go on holiday?

[funinthesun19]

Either the potential dog lives at your ex’s house, or your DS will just have to wait until he moves out and has his own place in the future.

Does your DS plan on going to uni and if so, will he reside there? If so, it’s even more reason for him not to get a dog just yet.

[Jedsnewstar]

The fact you had to post this question rather that laughing in his face makes me think you will let this happen.

[fishonabicycle]

Your house, you definitely don't have to have a dog in it! My son is 21 and has wanted a dog in and off for years - he can get one when he is settled in his own house! I don't want one (at least not until I retire!)

[PinkSyCo]

@CorsicaDreaming

I would be really worried about introducing a dog into a house with a 3 year old. It's just not safe imo. You are not at all unreasonable

What absolute rubbish.
But OP of course YANBU for not wanting a dog. As long as you are happy that your DS doesn’t have one at all, because it would be equally unreasonable if you wanted your ex to buy him one and have it live with him.