to be a bit miffed that DP bought me a kettle and toaster for Christmas?

[yorkshirepudding]

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[BroccoliSpears]

YANBU!
What did you get him? Take it back for a refund and use the money to buy yourself something you want - after all he got himself a toaster and a kettle.

[joedar]

No you are not!! Well if its any concellation my dh bought me a scarf and gloves that my 73 year old mil would not wear and an exercise item(didn't even open the box) I was so insulted!!! Men!!!

[PoinsettiaBouquets]

Depends. If they were truly beautiful...

[yorkshirepudding]

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[PoinsettiaBouquets]

Actually I know what you mean, I got a kitchen bin once for my birthday. It was a shiny chrome faux-Brabantia one so some thought had gone to it matching the kitchen but it had nothing to do with me!

[luckylady74]

i would be very specific about what you would like next year - YANBU - it's actually quite offensive to do that!

[yorkshirepudding]

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[callmeoverchristmas]

YANBU - We have banned Domestic Appliances as Pressies after I got a Kettle and Toaster for my Birthday a few years ago. I think he was going to get me a new microwave until I said no kitchen things for Christmas!

I did let my Mum buy me a frying pan through because I wanted one and she asked I think if you decide that is what you want it is ok but not in the place of something personal.

[moljam]

i had kitchen cupboards(2) and a chair for computer desk from dh.fun.
my mum gave me 2 tops that were 2 sizes too big.
its what xmas is all about

[octavia]

well as he gave them to YOU tell him he can't use them as they are yours and you don't want to share!

[yorkshirepudding]

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[JoyeuxNoelBiggy]

I got the same.

[yorkshirepudding]

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[BettySpaghetti]

I know someone whose husband gave her a meat/temperature probe for her birthday. Shes not even a keen or good cook.

That, I think, is worse than a kettle/toaster if it makes you feel any better.

[DrNortherner]

He's just mentioned on the phone that eh tjought he got it wrong with pressies, didn't like to probe so thought I'd check on here!

I'd be miffed off too bloomin kitchen equipment. Deffo get him a dust pan and brush and a set of dish cloths for his birthday.

Does he realise his wrongdoing? Will he shop for replacements in teh sales?

Will tray to call you later anyway for a chat.
xx

[NomDePlume]

I am obviously a Bad Wife. I bought DH a coffee machine for his birthday and a chrome Magimix for Christmas (along with a pair of trainers, a CD and an Ipod Nano, but the Magimix was his 'main' present)

[Shaniece]

How very romantic - a ruddy toaster & kettle, the cheeky git. I would have thrown them at him - besides their cheaper in the sales.

[Broodymomma]

Awww bless!! Think i would have launched them at him too!! I was so excited to open my gift from mum as i couldnt figure out what it was - imagine my horror at a new cutley set!!! Aghhhh.

[AbbeyA]

I have always made it clear (not that I have needed to)that a present for the kitchen is not a present for me. It has just been second nature because it was my mother's belief, so I have held it for as long as I can remember.

[beeper]

My hubby bought me a matching kettle and toaster after years of having old cheap ones and I was thrilled.

I would love an Ipod. Mostly I would love a fridge freezer and if i got a dishwasher I would die of happiness

[fryalot]

dp bought me an electric blanket

Because he keeps getting cold feet in bed



I think we should be grateful that we got anything at all, but remember, somewhere in the dim recesses of our minds, that when it comes to their birthday/Christmas present next year... well, he's always wanted a patent handbag, hasn't he?

[CarmenerryChristmas]

domestic appliances are NOT acceptable as personal gifts. They should come out of the family joint finances and therefore are not a gift as such.
Last Christmas I was in TKMax looking at lovely aprons as I needed a new one for cooking at Christmas and a man beside me said 'oh they are nice I'll get one for my wife for Christmas' to which I replied NO!!! You can't that is totally inappropriate - he looked a bit miffed and said 'but she likes cooking'. so I told him that as long as he got her something lovely and frivolous and thoughtful as well then he would be ok but I think he was a bit 'suprised' by my 'enthusiasm'

[Triggles]

I've had to actually insist a couple times when I specifically wanted a little luxury item for the kitchen - something not NEEDED as what we had was working fine, but an upscale or nicer item that I really wanted. And cookbooks. And handy little cooking items. (Yes, I'm a bit into the cooking stuff, but it's something I really enjoy doing)

DH was indignant - "I'm not going to buy you stuff for the kitchen for a gift!!" And I said you'd buy me stuff for any other hobby I liked as a gift, right? Why not for cooking? For him, the dividing line seems to be that if it's something for ordinary kitchen use, it can't be a gift. But if it's something specifically for me to use for fun baking experimental use or a fancy interesting gadget I've asked for, then it's alright. And I'm fine with that. He's the more traditional thinker - gifts means flowers, chocolates, jewellery,and things like that.

I think it's up the individual couple to make their own boundaries on gifts. After all, DH LOVES to get tools (especially power tools, the silly man!) for gifts, but realistically speaking, they're used to do DIY and work on the house... so are they appropriate as gifts? It's all in how you look at it, I guess.

[pinetreedog]

You have every right to be livid.

Don't give each other presents in future. Will contribute to festive harmony.

[SpacecadetLovesChristmas]

YANBU....I remember years ago when I was first seeing dh..it was our first christmas together and I was hoping for a really thoughtful present..instead imagine my horror when I opened a set of saucepans