AIBU?
callmeoverchristmas · 27/12/2007 13:43
YANBU - We have banned Domestic Appliances as Pressies after I got a Kettle and Toaster for my Birthday a few years ago. I think he was going to get me a new microwave until I said no kitchen things for Christmas!
I did let my Mum buy me a frying pan through because I wanted one and she asked I think if you decide that is what you want it is ok but not in the place of something personal.
DrNortherner · 28/12/2007 17:10
He's just mentioned on the phone that eh tjought he got it wrong with pressies, didn't like to probe so thought I'd check on here!
I'd be miffed off too bloomin kitchen equipment. Deffo get him a dust pan and brush and a set of dish cloths for his birthday.
Does he realise his wrongdoing? Will he shop for replacements in teh sales?
Will tray to call you later anyway for a chat.
xx
fryalot · 29/12/2007 10:47
dp bought me an electric blanket
Because he keeps getting cold feet in bed
I think we should be grateful that we got anything at all, but remember, somewhere in the dim recesses of our minds, that when it comes to their birthday/Christmas present next year... well, he's always wanted a patent handbag, hasn't he?
CarmenerryChristmas · 29/12/2007 10:57
domestic appliances are NOT acceptable as personal gifts. They should come out of the family joint finances and therefore are not a gift as such.
Last Christmas I was in TKMax looking at lovely aprons as I needed a new one for cooking at Christmas and a man beside me said 'oh they are nice I'll get one for my wife for Christmas' to which I replied NO!!! You can't that is totally inappropriate - he looked a bit miffed and said 'but she likes cooking'. so I told him that as long as he got her something lovely and frivolous and thoughtful as well then he would be ok but I think he was a bit 'suprised' by my 'enthusiasm'
Triggles · 29/12/2007 11:49
I've had to actually insist a couple times when I specifically wanted a little luxury item for the kitchen - something not NEEDED as what we had was working fine, but an upscale or nicer item that I really wanted. And cookbooks. And handy little cooking items. (Yes, I'm a bit into the cooking stuff, but it's something I really enjoy doing)
DH was indignant - "I'm not going to buy you stuff for the kitchen for a gift!!" And I said you'd buy me stuff for any other hobby I liked as a gift, right? Why not for cooking? For him, the dividing line seems to be that if it's something for ordinary kitchen use, it can't be a gift. But if it's something specifically for me to use for fun baking experimental use or a fancy interesting gadget I've asked for, then it's alright. And I'm fine with that. He's the more traditional thinker - gifts means flowers, chocolates, jewellery,and things like that.
I think it's up the individual couple to make their own boundaries on gifts. After all, DH LOVES to get tools (especially power tools, the silly man!) for gifts, but realistically speaking, they're used to do DIY and work on the house... so are they appropriate as gifts? It's all in how you look at it, I guess.
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