To not appreciate vibrators etc playing a part on family dramas!

[Chamomileteaplease]

Last night I started watching Bump on iplayer. In the first five minutes there is a scene where the mother's vibrator falls on the floor and is seen in all its glory.

I watched the first episode and it seemed like an OK drama, the kind you might watch with your older teens. But why do they have to throw in the vibrator scene? It wasn't needed and is just an embarrassment to the audience. Are they trying to be edgy??

A similar thing with Fleabag - I thought it would be a good series to watch with my older teenage daughter but then I remembered the first episode where she benignly accepts unasked for anal sex. The rest of the series is quite full on I would say, but nothing that bad again, from memory.

AIBU to be pissed off that programmes that might offer good family watching with older teens can be spoiled by unwarranted, in your face sexual scenes? Interested to hear if others agree.

[Sparklingbrook]

Everybody raved about the sex scenes in Normal People and said it was a must watch for teenagers (re consent etc) but I wouldn't have wanted to watch those scenes with my teenagers particularly.

[TatianaBis]

@SleepingStandingUp

How can you be OK with the sex scENESin GOT but have a tizzy over a vibrator on the floor??

IKR. Rape is fine but a vibratory is not? Ok.

[Fizzgigg]

@SleepingStandingUp

How can you be OK with the sex scENESin GOT but have a tizzy over a vibrator on the floor??

This.

I'd much rather teens see a fairly standard sex toy like a vibrator than almost anything that goes on in GOT. All the prostitutes being murdered, rape in season one and absolutely brutal rape and abuse being mentioned and alluded to throughout

[BeingATwatItsABingThing]

@Bagelsandbrie

You probably won’t want to watch Sex Education on Netflix then… which is a shame because it’s absolutely superb and perfect as a conversation starter with older teens 16/17 plus. (Although dd and I watched it separately and then chatted about it later - she’s 18).

Agree! Absolutely love Sex Education!

[BarefootHippieChick]

I don't know if 16 year olds all have vibrators, but even my 14 year old knows what one is. Not much escapes them on the secondary school yard these days.

[PoleFairy]

A vibrator is hardly shocking. In fact a lot of Instagram influencers whose target audience is late teens to early 20s are sponsored by sex toys now so they will see them online if not on tv

[Tal45]

@Dahlietta

In a way I felt she was sorting the viewers out into those who would stick with the programme and those who would switch off.
This is quite possible. I didn’t make it past the first couple of minutes 🤣

I was similar, I couldn't find anything likeable about her and couldn't warm to it. It seemed to only be about the sex life of someone dislikeable and miserable.

[TeaAndStrumpets]

@Dahlietta

In a way I felt she was sorting the viewers out into those who would stick with the programme and those who would switch off.
This is quite possible. I didn’t make it past the first couple of minutes 🤣

Too right!

[SleepingStandingUp]

How can you be OK with the sex scENESin GOT but have a tizzy over a vibrator on the floor??

[SleepingStandingUp]

I don't know, I was just trying to think of a scenario where it comes up, wouldn't surprise me

[neverbeenskiing]

You can't expect script writers who are writing content for adults to tone it down in case there's a Mum somewhere who finds vibrators embarrassing and wants to watch the show with their teenager. Bump is not written for adolescents, although the central character is 16 it is also an exploration of adult relationships and how the dynamics/problems change at different stages of life. The vibrator scene wasn't just random, the character feels bored and trapped in her marriage but develops an infatuation with a colleague that prompts something of a sexual re-awakening, hence the vibrator and the stuff about her taking up salsa dancing.

[Chamomileteaplease]

@SleepingStandingUp do schoolgirls have vibrators these days?! Am I behind the times?

I think I would be ok with a conversation with my 16 year old about anything but maybe not watching explicit stuff on a screen.

But you all have a point about being more aware of what I suggest to watch when we are together.

I watched Game of Thrones with my other child when she was 16 and that produced some good discussion. But there were no vibrators in that programme so it was ok .

[Chikapu]

I suppose I feel that a bit of "normal" sex under the covers

I wouldn't say under the covers sex is 'normal'.

[Dahlietta]

In a way I felt she was sorting the viewers out into those who would stick with the programme and those who would switch off.
This is quite possible. I didn’t make it past the first couple of minutes 🤣

[SleepingStandingUp]

Bump is 15+ so it's more your comfortableness around your daughter than it being inappropriate for a young person who can legally have sex. How will you feel if she wants to talk to you about her bf wanting anal sex or the girls in school all saying they have a vibrator?

[Bagelsandbrie]

You probably won’t want to watch Sex Education on Netflix then… which is a shame because it’s absolutely superb and perfect as a conversation starter with older teens 16/17 plus. (Although dd and I watched it separately and then chatted about it later - she’s 18).

[MadeOfStarStuff]

Maybe stick to watching actual family dramas with your teenagers then

Many things that teenagers and adults both watch are things they wouldn’t want to watch with their mum or daughter

[GozillaGirl]

I felt like this about Ginny and Georgia. Thought it might be like Gilmore Girls, some hinted at sex but nothing to explicit. Think actually teens can watch it by themselves!

Agree that Fleabag is for adults.

[Vursayles]

Fleabag is absolutely brilliant, one of a kind, but absolutely not to watch with teenagers! The utter filth starts pretty early in the first episode so if you’d proof-watched even a little bit you’d have realised that.

[BeingATwatItsABingThing]

Haven’t seen either but the vibrator one sounds like you being a bit prudish. The anal sex one sounds like something to discuss about consent.

How old are your teens?

[Chamomileteaplease]

Glad some agree .

I suppose I feel that a bit of "normal" sex under the covers, the usual sort of stuff is bearable but for me, vibrator stuff is going further. A teen might know what one is, but you don't necessarily want to watch that stuff with them .

I only watched the first episode of Bump so acquiesce that it perhaps isn't the family drama I thought it was. I figured a series about a teenage pregnancy would be suitable for a 16 year old. Maybe not.

Anyway, it is good to hear the views of others.

[NightmareSlashDelightful]

Neither Bump nor Fleabag are 'family dramas'. They're not Hamish Macbeth!

[BarefootHippieChick]

I've never seen either of these so can't comment on them in particular, but I think if you choose to watch anything with older teens you run the risk of one of you being embarrassed about some form of sex scene. There's very little content made these days that doesn't have any in. I guess it all depends on how comfortably you/your teen are with viewing it together.

[DriftingPlateTectonic]

Fleabag isn't something I'd watch with my teen, but I don't think the anal sex part is over the top or out of place in what is a very well written and acted show. If you don't want to risk a dildo showing up, you're going to have to make different choices about what you watch together.