To think my colleagues are been a bit nasty

[user625162733]

I'm not sure if I am been oversensitive (hormonal at the moment). I went back to work recently after been off sick for 18 months, obviously a lot changed at work in that time with the pandemic and also a lot of staff have left.
Due to treatment I received I get tired easily in the afternoon so I have requested to work half days (mornings). All the other staff work full days, so because of me only doing half days I don't work weekends at the moment.
One member of staff has a problem with me not working weekends and keeps saying things like I'm happy to do my share of weekends, all staff should be doing weekends are working till the end of shifts.
Last week a colleague asked me to do a job and I explained I couldn't due to damage in my arm after my operation and that i find doing repetitive work with that arm painful. She looked at me in a shocked way, as if I shouldn't have said that I couldn't do it and just get on with it.
I feel so unhappy at the moment and so useless 😩

[PairOfPears]

YANBU. ‘Fairness’ isn’t about everyone doing exactly the same thing. Who gives a shit if you work Saturdays or not? Makes no difference to them. They know what their terms of employment are and can leave if they’re not happy.

[osbertthesyrianhamster]

They're rude to say anything but in their shoes I'd be looking for another job because it's really unfair that the rest of them are having to pick up the slack for an employee who is now no longer able to meet the terms and conditions of the role. The management should hire round that if in fact they continue the person's employment as they're no longer suited to the role.

[user625162733]

@HollyBollyBooBoo

I think you just need to be really clear with them that you're part time, they are fixed days and it isn't going to change. If they've got a problem they can go to their line manager.

Is there a bit of resentment from them in so much as they've absorbed all the workload whilst you've been off?

Yeah there is resentment about the workload whilst I was off. They did get cover when I was off sick but it was after 9 months and by then staff had started to think about leaving due to been short staffed during the pandemic.

[gottakeeponmovin]

It would piss me off and I would be resentful. Can your manager help you find a job share so that you can do some weekends

[Graphista]

What you are experiencing is disability discrimination.

Speak to your line manager and the staff members concerned should be spoken with - and told to cut it out!

It's unacceptable and illegal

If someone wasn't doing their share OP IS doing their share based on the limitations of their health!

Yeah there is resentment about the workload whilst I was off. They did get cover when I was off sick but it was after 9 months and by then staff had started to think about leaving due to been short staffed during the pandemic.

Not your fault OR your problem that's a failure on employers part

[tootiredtospeak]

Be arsy back say stuff like. I will happily swop you...you be the one with a long term chronic fatigue issue and I will work weekends eh...or something like dont forget I only take half the pay as well as doing half the hours or be upfront and say look I have offered to do half day weekends and the management have said no so take it up with them.

[GreyhoundG1rl]

Yeah there is resentment about the workload whilst I was off. They did get cover when I was off sick but it was after 9 months and by then staff had started to think about leaving due to been short staffed during the pandemic.
And then you come back on four mornings per week. It's hardly surprising they're sick of it.

[Crocky]

@Graphista

What you are experiencing is disability discrimination.

Speak to your line manager and the staff members concerned should be spoken with - and told to cut it out!

It's unacceptable and illegal

If someone wasn't doing their share OP IS doing their share based on the limitations of their health!

Yeah there is resentment about the workload whilst I was off. They did get cover when I was off sick but it was after 9 months and by then staff had started to think about leaving due to been short staffed during the pandemic.

Not your fault OR your problem that's a failure on employers part

This!

[Crocky]

@GreyhoundG1rl she is no longer fit enough to do more. What exactly are you suggesting?

[Planty13]

YANBU at all OP. The terms on which you have returned to work are between you, your manager and your employer. They are being extremely rude and insensitive. Why is your colleague asking you to carry out tasks? Isn’t that down to your manager? I would be explaining that your tasks and responsibilities are set by your manager since your return to work and they should speak to them if they have concerns. I hope your employer is supportive OP.

[rachelstriffle]

HOW is the colleague "bullying" exactly?

Just say you are now working part-time (which you are) and she is free to apply for a similar part-time role?

If the management has not employed someone to cover the difference, and your colleagues have more work and more weekends, your colleagues can take it with management.

You are not the HR department.

[Notaroadrunner]

@GreyhoundG1rl

You've returned on a four mornings per week contract? Who fills the rest of your shift?

Why would you think someone needs to cover any hours for her when she is working her contracted hours? It's not as if she's simply leaving at lunchtime half way through a shift, and some other person has to pick up the slack. She's paid to work 4 mornings per week and whoever works the afternoon is neither here nor there.

[GreyhoundG1rl]

[quote Crocky]@GreyhoundG1rl she is no longer fit enough to do more. What exactly are you suggesting?[/quote]
I haven't "suggested" anything.

[DinaofCloud9]

Did you post a couple of weeks ago? I've definitely read this before.

[Planty13]

@ GreyhoundG1rl

Why are you taking this personally? OP has obviously been through a lot and it is 100% her EMPLOYERS job to find cover. You’re being pathetic.

[Lalliebelle]

It does sound like they are being a bit difficult. Might be time to look for a new job.

[ElizabethTudor]

@GreyhoundG1rl

Yeah there is resentment about the workload whilst I was off. They did get cover when I was off sick but it was after 9 months and by then staff had started to think about leaving due to been short staffed during the pandemic.
And then you come back on four mornings per week. It's hardly surprising they're sick of it.

Which is a phased return, no doubt recommended either by her GP or Occupational Health and usually agreed with HR/line management. The colleagues can be as ‘sick of it’ as they like. I’m sure Op is equally ‘sick’ of her illness too, plus being treated shittily by her colleagues.
Op, tell them you’re on a phased return agreed by OH/GP/HR etc and I’d also flag with your manager.
(And internally tell them to fuck off)

[rachelstriffle]

Why would you think someone needs to cover any hours for her when she is working her contracted hours?

if the OP was originally employed as a full-time employee, doing weekend covers also, unless she was doing bugger all during her working hours, SOMEONE needs to make up for the difference!

But that's not her problem, she is now part-time. Up to management to recruit a cover.

[Throckmorton]

Some people are such bastards. You are doing what you are contracted to do OP - if people moan tell them to go to management. It's on management to fix any perceived issues with workload, not you. Same goes to people on this thread - the OP has a contract to work 4 days a week, it's not on her to make herself ill by working outside her contract just because her colleagues whinge. And you know what, nice people who have to work extra due to a colleague being off sick are worried about that colleague's health, not angry at them.

[user00002]

try not to let it get to you OP.

I get people not liking working weekends but presumably your colleagues were aware that was one of their potential working days when they started the job. whether you work them too is neither here nor there. if they feel they are now getting an unfair share of weekend shifts then they need to take it up with management or look elsewhere.

I'm sure they wouldnt rather swap with you and take on your illness. you are only getting half the pay they are too presumably. if it carrys on, speak to your manager. noone should feel uncomfortable going to work.

[toocold54]

I’d have something ready to reply back with like - hopefully I can go back to full time soon as I miss the money - something that makes them realise you don’t get paid to do the hours they do.

[Ohpulltheotherone]

YANBU and it literally NOTHING to do with your colleagues .

Your contract is between you, HR and your management. How dare your colleagues think it has anything to do with them when you work or don’t work? Especially when it is directly related to a health reason.

You need to report what is going on, if you don’t feel you can directly say to them “my shifts are agreed with our manager so if you have an issue then you need to speak to them”

Why would anyone assume it’s their business what a colleague has formally agreed with regards to their working patterns. Even if that does mean that person can’t work certain days or shifts.

There for the grace of God go I.
They should be glad their health hasn’t restricted their physical abilities and working capacity.

[tornadosequins]

But that's not her problem, she is now part-time. Up to management to recruit a cover.

Which they have.

This is unlawful discrimination. I'm sorry you're facing such unnecessary and shitty behaviour on top of your illness. Please stop blaming yourself.

[rachelstriffle]

And you know what, nice people who have to work extra due to a colleague being off sick are worried about that colleague's health, not angry at them.

don't push it. People cover for a week or 2, but have no interest in putting their own life on hold and working extra.

Decent businesses employ covers and replacement - same way as they employ a maternity cover. It's not a shocking concept.

Colleagues should complain about their workload with their managers, or apply for a similar part-time role. It's not up to the OP's to recruit her cover.

[Brefugee]

They did get cover when I was off sick but it was after 9 months and by then staff had started to think about leaving due to been short staffed during the pandemic.

This is obviously utterly shit, but it is nothing to do with you, OP. If they mention this refer them to management.

If they are working extra weekends because your part time status precludes you working weekends, I totally get that they are grumpy about that. I would be too. But again, nothing to do with you, refer them to management.

It must be really shitty, though, OP. You have my sympathy.