Sorry it's a bit of a long post. So, I was dating someone for about 4 weeks. Started off nice, quite liked him. He doesn't drive, which I was put off with at first but then I met him and I wasn't that bothered. Went on a some dates, drinks and a meal etc. After a couple of dates I stayed at his place and we had a few drinks. He told me he had something to tell me, I thought "here we go!". I have a history of bad dates 🤣. Anyway he had previously told me he was a builder, he then told me he had lied about this and he is actually unemployed and lives on benefits due to his OCD and anxiety disorder. He then went on to show me his online bank balance (not requested by me) to prove that he's not some bum with no money (his words). He had more money in there than I make in a year! He has everything paid for for him, rent, living expenses etc. Anyway, I forgave him for lying as I understood he was embarrassed about his disorder. Over the next couple of weeks I started to notice how "tight" he was with his money, we would go shopping and he would ONLY buy things that are reduced. Each to their own, I like a bargain but he took this to a whole other level. If he was paying for a takeaway for example, he would search and search for the cheapest option. Whereas if I was paying, he would suggest more expensive options. I asked if he would ever consider going back to work as to me, he seemed like he could work, as his OCD is under control. He said he could, but he's better off being on benefits so it doesn't make sense to go back to work. This was a massive deal breaker for me, I found it really unattractive. The next day we had booked to go out on the broads on a boat. It was £20, he paid. We went, had a nice day. But after that date I just wasn't feeling things with him anymore, the more I got to know him the more I was put off with his ways. I was honest about it and told him and I apologised for wasting his time. We parted ways and that was that. The next day he text me and asked me if I could transfer him £10 for my half of the boat trip!! Also sent me his bank details to do so. I was gobsmacked. For 4 or so weeks I was driving back and forth to his which was a 30 min drive one way, I drove us everywhere we went. I paid for things for us both that he deemed "too expensive". I never in a million years ask for money back for petrol etc, so to me this seemed quite pathetic. I was fuming that he even had the cheek to ask me for a tenner 😂. Especially as I work full time for my money while he gets more than I do a month just for sitting on his backside. When I said no, he told me to choke on it. Which I laughed at as to me it's so ridiculous. AIBU for not giving him a tenner?
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