AIBU?
Another mil one, isn't that what this topic is for!
miltrouble · 16/10/2007 15:48
Ok so before I go ranting to dp about his mum again I just wanted to check what everybody else thought here.
Mil turns up and asks if she can take DD to the soft play down the road for 30 mins (lovely I get a nice break).
2 hrs later and no sign of either of them, so I called mil and she tells me they are just at Tesco and will be back in a minute.
When they get back DD is looking very undressed and just has mil neckscarf tied around her bum . I presumed she had just had an accident (which hardly ever happens hence no change of clothes with her) and mil says 'oh no she did it after we had been at soft play for 20 mins'.
So it turns out that DD has been playiing in soft play for over an hour with just a neck scarf tied around her bum flashing her flower and bum at everyone and I dont even want to think of the hygeine thing. Mil then took her to tesco and dd was running around there and sitting in the trolley for 30 mins still with no clothes on.
I don't get why mil didn't just bring her home after she had the accident, I get that she didn't want DD to be disappointed but she could've just got more clothes for her here and I am really not happy about DD running around Tesco with barely any clothes on.
So am being unreasonable at being really pissed off with her for not just bringing her back or would you have done the same thing? DD is 2 by the way.
TIA
Fireflyfairy2 · 16/10/2007 15:57
Do you think she was afraid that if she brought her home for a change of clothes you wouldn't have let them go back to softplay again?
Sounds like she wanted to keep her out as long as possible. Does she see much of your dd?
I for one would be annoyed that my chold had been running around with a scarf round her bum!
Dawnybabe · 16/10/2007 15:57
I was thinking, well ok, perhaps, until I got to the end and read that dd is TWO!!
YANBU. I would have had a bit of a row with the mil, to be honest. Has she got no brains? How bloody warm does she think the middle of October is, for a start? And do you really want your toddler showing her bits to every stranger in town? No. I would explain that you are actually quite shocked and horrified by her complete lack of sense, and that you will have to be in on all visits from now on. If she can't see that that isn't really very nice, what else has she been up to? Sorry if that sounds harsh but I'd be a bit reluctant to trust her judgement from now on.
Hope dd peed all over her car!
miltrouble · 16/10/2007 16:02
Well yes I am furious, but was keeping the op balanced in the interests of fairness to mil
She looked bloody ridiculous and I can't believe the soft play people didn't say 'um she can't play in here with no knickers or trousers on'. Plus if she had already had one wee there was every chance she would do it again. I just can't believe she paraded her around tesco dressed like that.
Firefly, she does see DD quite a bit and I would've been more than happy for her to take her back out, it was a lovely break
frankie3 · 16/10/2007 16:04
I would have also been very upset and angry at this. Especially if your local soft play is as dirty as mine. Also, your DS could have caught the scarf on something while playing, and bare bottoms on slides are not great! She should have left the soft play early and bought your DS some cheap trousers while in Tesco.
TheStepfordChav · 16/10/2007 16:07
Apart from the nakedness issue, I would be angry about her telling you 30 mins & then taking her away for 2 hours. What if you'd had plans?
Who in their right mind takes a dch to Tesco anyway of they don't have to? And wasn't she worried about leaving her with no nappy for all that time? Couldn't she have bought some nappies in Tesco? Do you think she thought she was helping you by keeping her out? Seem to be lots of questions!!! But it doesn't add up. YANBU.
miltrouble · 16/10/2007 16:18
Tesco, is no where near soft play so she wouldn't of gone there to get more clothes and once they were there she didn't bother i'm guessing because she was bringing her home afterwards.
I think she did stay out later because she wanted to give me a break which I appreciate but not so happy with the whole no clothes thing.
And it was an ugly scarf
Starbear · 16/10/2007 16:28
Sounds like my mum. Is she scared of you? My mum is terrified of me. I think this can make her not think straight. Don't be too hard on her. Just talk it through calmly. Check in future if she really wants the little one for out longer. I think we can really be hard on granny and they love the company of our kids. See another thread I think my mum's drinking and looking after Ds really heart breaking to find out yesterday had a big big row really don't know what to do as she loves Ds so much.
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