I’ve written about my ex on here, I left him he didn’t leave me. I just couldn’t deal with his laziness, and there was just a lot that was going on in our marriage. There was no abuse or cheating, just fucking laziness from his part. It wasn’t a bad ‘bad’ marriage as such.
He’s moved on, and he’s the sort of person who likes to take pictures of what he eats or been. He does it whether he’s with his mum, friends or girlfriend. So I know he’s not doing it to ‘show her off’.
But it just hurts like hell to see him post pictures on his WhatsApp status of them being out and about, to nice fancy restaurants. They’ve been eating out since Monday because of the 50% off discount thing, yesterday he took her to this really nice high end steak house in London he’s always talked about going when we were together, but just never went. I could see it was that restaurant because of the menu card on the table. It was so hard seeing her there with her nicely done nails eating steak with him. I’m also jealous that we just never went out like that, but he’s always going out with her.
I can’t block him because we have children together, I’ve tried to mute his WhatsApp status so I don’t see his pictures. But I can still see it, it’s just not at the top with all the other WhatsApp statuses. I find myself constantly looking at his status, I can’t help it. I wish I could just block him. We have an OK relationship apart from this.
I’m just sad that her and her daughter are living the life my children and I should be living. I know I left him, but had it not been for his laziness we would still have been together 😔
AIBU?
To feel sad looking at ex's WhatsApp status and his GF. I can't help it!!
whatsappcurse · 06/08/2020 09:04
Thank god you found a way to not see this! Can't believe even whatsapp now has 'stories'. 
@whatsappcurse I have indeed! 
In my case it was my narc SIL who kept posting passive aggressive updates that I wanted to look at like picking at a scab. Now I still have her number as we're in several group chats together and I have her previous chats to me but i can't be irritated by her updates. I know I could just not look at them but it is tempting when you see them there. That's why I avoid social media as a general rule...
Oh and if you did feel like looking at his updates again for whatever reason but didn't want him to know you could just turn off the blue ticks - someone upthread showed how to do this - you can also block individual people from looking at your status or only allow it to be viewed by certain people.
There are people in my contacts who update their status on a daily basis. I'm 40 and most of my friends are similar aged.
@dangerrabbit I feel relieved, he doesn't have any other social media accounts, so there's nothing else I could look on. Just snapchat but he doesn't post anything there, he uses WhatsApp status for that for some reason 
. I'm curious, have you deleted someone's number to avoid seeing their WhatsApp updates? how on earth did you figure that out? I wish I knew how to do that, could have saved myself from so much heartache and stress. I tell myself no you're not going to look, but I can't help it. And it makes it worse knowing he can see I've viewed his stories
@TimelyManor
It took me a lot of willpower to begin with but once your mood starts lifting it becomes easier. You can do this
This.
You just have to make a decision to cut those updates out, whatever way you do that. I say this as someone who used to monitor ex’s social media, driving myself wild with anger and frustration. It’s a poisonous fuel, and the only person who suffers is you. Block block block on everything except text or email. The less you feed it, the less it will negatively impact on you. Now, if my friends mention ‘oh, I see ex is ...’, I say ‘now, we’ve spoken about this - you are not helping me. I don’t want to know this.’ Don’t permit space in your head to be occupied this way.
Don't block him, just delete his number. You then won't be able to see his WhatsApp status but can still receive messages from him etc so it doesn't look like you've blocked him
Omg thank you so much!!! I've just deleted his number, the messages are still there but his WhatsApp status about last nights steak house is GONE! puff! I want to give you a hug
I can finally breathe, don't have to see his stupid WhatsApp stories, where he's been with or or take her.
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