Is my friend being rude here?

[tillytallys]

Yesterday I had the day to myself(well with my daughter ) and had zero plans.
My friend text early morning and asked if I wanted to meet up in town,have a look around the shops and grab lunch (with our kids )
I jumped at the chance and told her to text me when she was in town.
I waited
And waited and anyway she didn't text.
I text her 5 mins ago saying "hope your ok,was a little worried when you didn't text back yesterday"
Her reply
"Oh sorry totally forgot to text you back yesterday,I went to the beach instead"
Do you think that's rude ?
I would have met her at the beach instead if she preferred..but to simply just not even bother letting me know she had changed her mind.
I waited 3 hours for a text then gave up and we just went out ourselves.

[KorkMum]

So so rude! Shit friend or what. Don't say yes next time.

[Mary46]

Very rude but I have been stung few times. I suit around my kids now. Op thats rude of her

[S111n20]

Yes !!!! Absolutely yes !!! Wow that’s very rude x

[Mummyshark2018]

Yes very rude! Why did you wait til all most 5pm though? I would've text before lunch to secure plans. I absolutely hate waiting around though.

[phoenixrosehere]

Both of you were unreasonable.

You could have contacted her asking an exact time and meeting place instead of waiting three hours to call. She should have said she changed her plans.

Rule of thumb imo is if there is no date, no exact time, nor a meeting place, nothing is planned. After dealing with people wanting to wait until the last minute to give me an actual time after having given a date and a meeting place over a week or more in advance and me asking about the time for days on end, I’ve become quite strict about such things. Funny enough, this only happens with my husband’s friends. I don’t have any friends that aren’t specific on plans unless we’re just hanging at their home.

[BrutusMcDogface]

Yes, very very rude. Eggysmom- is this what you really think? It’s extremely paranoid.

I agree with a pp that she just got a better offer. I’m sorry, op. I think you should play it cool with her and spend time with people who are actually your friends. 💐

[AZillion]

Change her name in your contacts to Shit Friend

^ I just laughed at that. Maybe wrong, but it made me, well, laugh.

No specific advice OP. Just demote her in a similar way re. your priorities.

[RosaBaby2]

Incredibly rude. So so rude.

[84claire84]

She's a twat

[sonjadog]

Yes, it was rude, but I wouldn't write off a friendship is this was a one off. In future, don't wait for three hours for anyone. Send a message when you don't hear back and ask, and if you don't hear anything, then proceed with your own plans.

[Iverunoutofnames]

Rude.
I had a friend who would text, I’ll get back to you in 5 minutes to arrange meet up time. Wouldn’t hear a thing from her again. I would see on Facebook she’d gone somewhere else and she would message 10 hours later - Oh changed my mind.
They don’t think your time is valuable I think

[KatieGilbert]

Yep, very rude

[Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel]

YANBU. She'd be an ex friend.

[Louise91417]

Why did you wait 3 hours i would have text after half an hour max asking her what she was playing at...

[Sabine123]

Very rude ! Lesson learnt - wait for no-one !! I used to do things like this - I am a people pleaser. A nice quality but you do get forgotten or trod on.

[Beautiful3]

Yes its rude. Next time dont reply.

[Fatarseflanagan09]

I would be hurt, especially if my children were looking forward to it and even if you don't usually initiate outings as another poster suggested it's still hurtful and rude, it seems that your friendship is dispensible and if something better comes up you're pushed to one side and forgotten as though your feelings don't count, I would take this up with her and tell her that in future have the common decency to let you know and as for forgetting to text you that's rubbish, she's an inconsiderate bitch and a crap friend.

[Motoko]

Bollocks did she forget!

She's not much of a friend OP, but why didn't you contact her when you didn't hear from her?

[EineReiseDurchDieZeit]

Hugely rude and obviously one of those people who arranges their social life in such a way in that they have a backup all fixed in case the better outing with the first choice friend they REALLY want to see doesn't pan out.

Remember it for the future.

[fluffygreenmonsterhoody]

Exceptionally rude.

And you need to value yourself and your time more. Don’t wait three hours for someone to tell you what to do. Chase it up half an hour later and if no reply then do your own thing.

[Nannewnannew]

@biscuiteer

She says she forgot. I would leave it at that. It's really not worth thinking over -especially to the point of maybe she was trying to avoid you.

Put away your conspiracy theories people, someone forgot about some casual plans to catch up in town and the other person didn't call or text them to see if it was still on.

I don’t agree that it was a casual plan, maybe you would be happy to hang around but I certainly wouldn’t.
tillytallys I agree with the majority of posters in that it was incredibly rude of her to treat you like that. I have had a ‘friend’ who has done similar things and I no longer have contact with her. Your time is just as important as hers so don’t waste it on her.

[RonnieBob]

Massively rude. Huge.

[WeEE]

@tillytallys Did she respond to your follow up message?

Not nice of her at all.
What a d*ck.

[PoodleMoth]

Extremely rude!

[LaraLondon1]

Maybe a case of crossed wires , could she have been checking if you were going to be in town anyway perhaps .. and if so she knew she could catch up if she went to town .
I think I would have also t/ c her tho rather than wait and wait .
My experience is that it doesn’t work well to challenge friends who have acted out of line so I don’t think I would ask her what the heck she was doing.