To really dislike being pregnant?

[CommonMallow]

Hi,

Bit worried about getting torn apart for this but I want to say that I totally appreciate that I can get pregnant and I sympathise with all those who have difficulties.

But I hate it. I’m just short of 8 months and I really haven’t enjoyed any moment of it. I’ve been constantly sick, I feel awful and every time the baby kicks I get this weird feeling over my whole body that makes me feel like I want to be alone (really had to describe).

Did anyone else feel like this? I am worried it will affect my relationship with my child.

[googledontknow]

I hated being pregnant, and every woman I know hates being pregnant.
It's really not surprising - I'm amazed you feel like you are supposed to be enjoying it (I'm guessing you watch too many adverts with glowing beautiful pregnant ladies in them).
When you tell people you are pregnant, they are congratulating you for the baby which will be born - not the 9 shitty months you are about to have!

[Notenoughchocolateomg]

I hated being pregnant both times. The first time it was novel and initially I enjoyed it, but I was soon sore and achy and depressed. Second time was horrendous. Horrific SPD pain throughout which left me feeling suicidal. Terrible depression throughout too. It was just awful. Worth it all for my wonderful children. Never again

[LHReturns]

Despised both pregnancies and counted days off on a chart every day.

I never really thought about how awful it was when it was over. But totally a means to end, and there is not ONE thing I enjoyed about being pregnant and I am glad I won’t be doing it again.

[Nartl0ngNow]

Agree with you OP!
Not helped by most classes talking about you like your part of a kindergarten class.
"And remember, every day you're closer to meeting your lovely baby" iiiiiii knooooowww!!

[gamerchick]

Nah it's fine OP. I detested pregnancy, I didn't like the grub stage much either but it didn't affect bonding.
In fact I pinpointed the relief from pregnancy, when the head was out. Nearly over then.

[Bettysprocker]

Absolutely hated every moment of every day. I had Hg until their births with all three, alongside high blood pressure, which meant long hospital stays. There is almost 10 years between DC1&2 mainly because I didn't feel up to going through it again. I adore children and the ends justified the means. DH was amazing and without him being so attentive our eldest would have remained an only child. They're 24, 15 and 13 now, I'm glad I never have to face it again.

[riotlady]

Absolutely hated it, I felt awful and I was an emotional wreck. Honestly recovering from my section wasn’t half as bad as being pregnant- it hurt but I could take full breaths, eat what I wanted (gestational diabetes), wasn’t being sick and I had a cute baby to cuddle!

[Nsky]

I found it ok, and felt well, both times

[ChanklyBore]

I have been pregnant for a little over three years of my life. I have two children. I love them more because of the horrific things I went through getting them here, IMO. It felt like me and them against the world, something we had to get through by sticking together, rather than them inflicting it on me. Pregnancy is just....I can’t even find the words. Unbearable, but to be borne anyway.

[sweetkitty]

As much as I adore my 4 children (yes 4) and am so grateful they are here I hated being pregnant with a passion, I think I had 2 good weeks where the sickness went before the pelvic pain started. Pregnancy glow??? I looked like a sack of shit, I had that weird face pigmentation thing going on too, I looked old, knackered, in constant pain, heartburn, leaking boobs, fanjo felt like it was on the floor, uncomfortable etc.

I’m surprised I did it 4 times but happy never ever again.

[BoomBoomsCousin]

I hated it too. My MiL told me she loved being pregnant and all I could think was - How bad was your life that this could be better? (and yes, I know that's not reasonable, but when I was pregnant and just desperate for it to be over, that was how I felt!).

It will be over soon enough OP.

[RoadTripsOceanDips]

With all the usual disclaimers of being incredibly grateful to have my children, I absolutely loathed pregnancy. My first pregnancy ended with a MMC and that just made me hate pregnancy even more. I was really unwell throughout both my successful pregnancies and pretty anxious too. However, I bonded with both of my babies immediately and was just incredibly grateful to have a healthy baby and no longer be pregnant. As I’d felt so ill during pregnancy, which relieved once I’d given birth, I found the newborn stage a doddle comparatively.

[Saralou82]

Oh God yes! You have put it exactly right. So very grateful for my kids, but, pregnancy was awful. Don't worry about the bond you will be fine.

[northstars]

Hated it as well. I had a hard time getting pregnant and I still found pregnancy very very difficult.

[shakeituntilyoumakeit]

I absolutely hated it. I haven’t been pregnant for six years and I still say to myself at least you aren’t pregnant on a weekly basis

[MrTumbleTumble]

DS was an IVF baby, desperately wanted. I was so utterly grateful to be pregnant, and acutely aware of how lucky I was.

I still hated every single day of pregnancy though!

[LegallyBlue]

Pregnancy is the worst thing that I have ever experienced. I hated every single second of it. There is absolutely nothing on this planet that would ever compel me to do it again. I did it once and adopted my other children. You are not alone. If it's any consolidation, for me, labour was the best part so don't worry yourself about that.

[EmeraldShamrock]

It is normal for many. I hated been pregnant too trying to get around with a big bump, sickness, heartburn, especially by 8 months.

[Sugarhouse]

Yanbu I loved feeling baby kicks but everything else never ending sickness, heartburn, excruciating leg cramps, pelvic gurdle pain, finding it harder to breathe is bloody awful. It will soon be over though and they are so worth it. Hang in there I know the last month drags but baby will soon be here and then time will pass so quickly it’s scary. Good luck op

[RobynNora]

Constantly sick? You are an absolute superstar! This is unrelated to your feelings for your child and you shouldn't beat yourself up. Plus, our hormones run wild when we're pregnant, which is easy to forget because it's not as obviously physical as the other stuff going on.

If my entire pregnancy in any way resembled my first trimester with sickness/generally feeling crappy I wouldn't like it one bit either! My friend is preg at the moment and gets really weirded out by the movements. I'd bet it's much more common than we hear about. You're doing amazingly well and you're very nearly there.

[Carlottacoffee]

My goodness I hated being pregnant. It’s one of the reasons I didn’t want any more. I had big babies and had to go for physio whilst pregnant and after.

Couldn’t cope with smells. Was ridiculously tired. Swollen feet, bad back and hip. Cried a lot.

Felt like an alien after birth too!

Your not on your own

[Pinkcat231]

I feel like the excitement about pregnancy and new babies is mostly for other people and not for the expectant mum at all. It’s hard work growing, birthing and then looking after a baby while recovering from parts 1 & 2!

As a previous poster said I’m very grateful to be able to do it but it’s not all fun and cute babies as seen on social media and advertising!

Give yourself a break, there’s not long to go and you’ll love your baby once they’re here and no more sickness or kicking m

[SummerBaby2020]

It’s my due date today and I can honestly say that yes I am grateful for being able to have a baby ( after being told that it was highly unlikely ) but I have hated every minute of it and can’t wait until LO is here. I think it’s been made worse with it being my first and with all of the COVID stuff going on I’ve been pretty much left to fend for myself but tbh it’s honestly put me off ever doing it again. Hopefully not long and your LO will be here @CommonMallow too good luck and bring on a wine lol!! x

[donkey86]

Yanbu. I’m 37 weeks and it sucks. Just want it over with now. The heatwave isn’t helping!

[CommonMallow]

@mynameiscalypso

Agree, 100%. I thought before being pregnant that I probably only wanted one child. Now I know that I definitely do - I can't stand the thought of doing it again. That said DS was a million times worth it.

I feel like this already. People have started asking me about having another (which is mad, this one isn’t out yet!) and I’m already thinking ‘no way’