Do you think you're a fun person?

[Redleathertrousers]

I'm asking because I don't really think I am. When I look around me at people who easily make friends and meet partners, they are all fun, have a silly side, laugh a lot and get everyone else laughing. Obviously because they are fun, they draw people to them! Then I look at myself...hmmm...

I don't think I know how to be fun. I'm much better at more serious conversation and by serious I don't mean sombre, just the day to day stuff. I can be silly when interacting with children and playing with the dog, but not in other contexts really. I don't really know how to make others laugh unless I'm being sarcastic or commenting as part of somebody else's funny story if that makes sense. God I sound weird.

I just wondered whether you all laugh a lot and whether you'd consider yourself to be fun to be around. I think people would honestly say 'no' to that about me, and would say that's probably not what they'd immediately think of, although I do have some long standing friendships so I can't be that bad. I worry that I'm too boring or serious for anyone to want to be with me in a relationship too. I suppose I am a bit uptight.

[Redleathertrousers]

This thread has made me realise I maybe place too much importance on being seen as fun, and that it's okay to naturally be more serious. And you've given me a laugh so thanks.

[SadSisters]

I think I am. I laugh a lot when I am with people and make others laugh often. And I think I tell a good story and come up with quite witty comments.

I expect some people find this annoying, however! It takes a good mix of all kinds of people to make a world.

[Mrsjayy]

Oh I'm wild I answer my door

[ILiveInSalemsLot]

I don’t think anyone would describe me as fun but I’m positive and have a good sense of adventure.
You don’t need to be fun to be good company.

[speakout]

I hope not.

Who wants to be known as a "fun" person?

[megletthesecond]

No. I'm way too tired for fun.

[dayswithaY]

Depends on your definition of fun. Like a lot of people, I can't bear forced jollity and organised fun like sing-a-longs and group dancing. I die inside when someone on stage says "Come on everyone, on your feet!" I'm not good in big groups so all these online quizzes are hell for me, same as hen parties and anything that involves screaming on a mini bus.

But I do have close friends who I can really laugh with, sometimes for hours. If I'm in the right company I can tell stories and anecdotes. I'm good at talking to people and I'm generally an upbeat person. I find loud "zany" types who take over conversation very tedious. A bit like my BIL who turns into Mickey Flanagan at the O2 after a few drinks. What a bore.

[BlueJava]

No I wouldn't say I'm fun. I try to make things fun sometimes for the kids and DP and me, but I'm not "fun" as you describe. But it doesn't bother me, I'm quite serious, analytical, logical, I enjoy my job, I'm loyal - those are important to me (others probably have different things important to them), but I'm not fun!

[derxa]

This is MN OP. People don't answer their doors or the phone. Fun!!? The very idea of it!

[GrouchyKiwi]

No. See screen name.

[JoieDeLivres]

Hi OP, sounds like you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself there! Think we can fetishise "funny" sometimes and put a big social premium on it, but I'm not sure that being TopBantz for the sake of it is necessarily a good thing. I can make people laugh when I'm feeling relaxed and comfortable, but I think that's secondary to just having a good connection and feeling like there's an authentic atmosphere - no front. I probably sound like a right hippy but hopefully you get my drift!

[Angelonia]

I'm a happy person and I smile a lot. I don't think I'm particularly funny though - I think I'm nice to be around rather than witty or hilarious.

[OhhhPeee]

No, I am absolutely not fun.

All the news items about people doing things for “fun” during lockdown, eg doorstep karaoke, sponsored whatevers, joining in with Joe Wicks, Zion pub quizzes etc. just leave me completely cold. Being fun just sounds exhausting, expensive and tedious to me.

[Redleathertrousers]

@OhTheRoses yes I can relate to finding some stupidity annoying.

@Laiste I find people with a dry sense of humour very funny. It's my kind of humour, hence why I'm often sarcastic. Interestingly I've noticed people who are a bit 'crazy' are often really popular!

[Fleamaker123]

Depends what you mean by fun.. In what sense? I don't do zany, silly, only with my children. Don't drink or like to be the focus of attention either.
I'm think I'm a very even-tempered person, not prone to extremes of moodiness or fun. I think I'm quite boring in that sense!
I know others think I'm boring, I've overheard someone say it (ouch!). But I have great, long standing friends who enjoy my company so it doesn't matter to me (maybe they're boring too!)

[Mrsjayy]

I find things funny and I have a sense of humour im not all miserable! I have. A FB friend who has been. Cheering us up during lockdown it makes me want to roll up into a ball.

[romdowa]

I don't think I'm fun either but I'm also possibly asd , so I think maybe my brand of fun isn't the same as other peoples. If I do make someone laugh then its unintentional.

[GreyGardens88]

In my own way, but I think most people think I'm a grumpy git because I dislike children, loud noises and faff!

[DramaAlpaca]

I enjoy a good laugh but mostly I'm more on the serious side.

[HotSince82]

At parties? Yes.

Otherwise, no.

[Redleathertrousers]

Wow so many replies. Thank you, I feel less alone. I just don't really have anything funny to say, maybe fun people do fun things so have funny anecdotes to tell. Even on dates, where we are both laughing it's usually because they've said or brought up something fun/exciting to talk about. Not me. I used to have so much fun as a child. I've lost it somewhere along the way.

[Laiste]

I hate people that describe themselves as fun. Or crazyyy. Or zaney.

I can be fun, but only if i'm in the mood. More accurately I am one of life's optimists. Which is more helpful in general i think

My DD2 (23) seems on the surface to be rather a 'not fun' sort of person while in fact she is very observant and has a very dry sense of humor. She often has me in fits of laughter. Typical 'fun' people can be exhausting ...

[granadagirl]

No if fact my sister actually said to my partner one time, xxxx can be quite a serious person. Dp find things funny all the time, I look at him and think “ what’s funny about that”☹️

[Mrsjayy]

I'm not a fun person I hate forced fun and what not im a pleasant person but not fun.

[Ughmaybenot]

Sounds a bit vain to say it but yes, I am. I make people laugh and I’m always smiling and laughing myself. I’m generally a pretty upbeat, happy person and i like to say yes to ideas or outings or whatever.