Social distancing and giving lifts

[01Username]

I am going to a family bbq tomorrow and will be driving as I don’t drink. I’ve been asked to give a lift to other people going (who I don’t live with) so they can all drink - AIBU to say no because of social distancing ?

[TankGirl97]

No, I wouldn't do it either. My mum doesn't have a car and normally uses public transport. I'd love to drive her somewhere nice for a walk together but we can't do it.

[Krong]

Hmm but once you get there do you really think you'll all be observing the rules? or will everyone be hugging and chatting close and touching the same utensils and passing drinks....

[Hoppinggreen]

If they think it’s ok for you to give people a lift it suggests that none of the event will be held according to the guidelines

[Crownofthorns]

We gave my brother-in-law a lift to the station a few weeks ago. He’s the only person we have met up with since lockdown and otherwise observed the two metre rule. I don’t feel remotely bad about it, we have followed all the rules throughout unlike many others.

[bigbluebus]

Definitely against the current guidelines. I spoke to a friend yesterday who lives alone and she said she was desperate to go somewhere other than the supermarket. I suggested a socially distanced walk by the river in our nearest large town next week. However, i made it clear that we will have to travel there in separate cars even though she will virtually drive past my house on the way. Having said that I have just been into 2 large stores where all and sundry were roaming around like it was a bank holiday weekend and completely ignoring the one way arrows and 2m signs so what do I know.

[Kaj29]

No I wouldn’t!

[diddl]

@01Username

Thank you everyone for your replies - it’s caused a huge argument so I was worried I was being selfish but going to stick to my guns

So it's really important to them all to be able to drink?

[Itsjustabitofbanter]

You’re going to a piss up at a bbq. Regardless of the ‘rules’ you’re already putting yourself at risk

[SMJYellow]

I have some lovely kind neighbours. I don't have a car and I usually walk a lot. My neighbours were always great at stopping and offering a lift. Like if I was coming home from the shop with a heavy bag, I would generally be grateful for a lift from a neighbour.

Lately since the social distancing measures came in, there has been no more lifts. Nobody is stopping and rightly so. I wouldnt feel comfortable getting into a car either.

My mom had a doctors appointment this morning and she went to the shop afterwards and coming home a neighbour stopped for her and she took the lift. I was absolutely fuming when I learned that she took the lift. It was just the person who stopped to give her a lift. He's a kind man for sure but he has a brother with poor ill health and he's in and out from the hospital. They live together by the way. I don't know what the latest status is of the brother, if he was in hospital lately. There was an ambulance there a few weeks ago outside his house. The hospital is huge risk for picking up infection and in the country I'm from I learned a lot of the nursing home cases occured from older people in hospital who were discharged to nursing homes.

What my mother did was unbelievably risky. Hopefully the man doesn't have any virus in him.

[Defenbaker]

YANBU, stick to your guns OP. I'm surprised that 6% have voted YABU, but perhaps these are people who also think the need for them to get pissed outweighs anyone else's right to social distance, while driving their own car. I can't believe the cheek of the people who would pressure you in this way.

[user1486915549]

It’s against the rules.

[Comefromaway]

No. You cant't travel with someone not part of your household unless its for work purposes.

I've been unable to give lifts to ds's friends so they can meet up in each others gardens for this reason.

[Khione]

I gave my daughter a lift from the supermarket. I'm retired, she's been working from home. We have both only been out for shopping.

Me giving her a lift was safer than her getting a taxi with a stranger who also had had others in the car.

I wouldn't currently give anyone a lift for purely social reasons.

[tenlittlecygnets]

If they're going to argue about this AND they're going to drink I suggest they might not actually keep up with the social distancing while they're there OP. I'd avoid them altogether.

This.

[onalongsabbatical]

If they're going to argue about this AND they're going to drink I suggest they might not actually keep up with the social distancing while they're there OP. I'd avoid them altogether.

[MitchellMummy]

I wouldn't either. Maybe the people could look into taxis - either black cabs or the big people carriers (van style) so there's a gap between driver and rear row of seats.

[NotEverythingIsBlackandWhite]

@CecilyP
"I might offer for one person sitting back seat near side in a reasonably sized car. I certainly wouldn’t take a group."
Why would you put yourself at risk by doing this? We have to queue 2 metres apart outside a supermarket yet you would put yourself in an indoor situation with less distance between you and a n other. Why would you do that?

[FunTimes2020]

@01Username

Thank you everyone for your replies - it’s caused a huge argument so I was worried I was being selfish but going to stick to my guns

How unkind of family to cause a huge argument over this. I would be tempted not to go, although perhaps the host isn't one of the unpleasant ones.

[Purpleartichoke]

I would also want the option to leave early if people aren’t following good practices as the party progresses.

[Spied]

No way and it's very rude of them to ask and put you in this situation.

[Bagelsandbrie]

I mean I would give anyone a lift either.

[Bagelsandbrie]

There’s no way I would do this but where I live taxis are still operating - as in normal cars with no screens etc. All seems weird!

[starfish4]

No way. I'm going to a friend's house (should I say garden!) tonight. Another friend who is going lives around the back of me, we'll be travelling there separately.

[roses2]

You'll be in trouble if stopped by the police - use that as your excuse.

[BlessYourCottonSocks]

It's a ridiculous suggestion from them - particularly as others have pointed out its for the vital reason of them wanting to get pissed...

I'm in at work all next week - an hour's drive each way - and I usually lift share with a colleague. We are travelling separately in our own cars precisely because of social distancing. And our trips are necessary, rather than BBQ based.