I am a long term poster but changed my user name as this could be outing!
So I am having a dilemma!
Been with DH for nearly 10 years and I think the wool is coming off my face.
I work 13 hours a day self employed and he takes all my Funds except what I save for tax claiming it is for bills.
I have nothing!
No money for clothes zilch.
I wanted a baby he said no because he is afraid I will Die I have t1 diabetes.
I think this us just an excuse.
He has a Ds from a previous marriage, but that's a different story.
He's never really looked after him his GP did but that was mostly down to them playing games etc
Anyway I'm in my late 30s thinking I want another baby he promised me a family and I know that I have been a fool.
My aibu is
Should I leave him?
My DD who is now a young adult left our home to live with her dad because of his psychotic mother coming in yelling, I did not leave then because I personally had nowhere to go.
He sees his family every day and his son (they live on our street) unfortunately.
I can't see DD Every day she lives an hour away and I don't drive.
I have no support network at all I am totally alone in this world.
All he does is take take take from me money wise etc.
I suggested his DS was autistic or on the spectrum.
I was ignored called for it in fact.
One of his friends suggests it suddenly he takes notice and he presto he is!
He thinks nothing of taking himself off golfing with the lads.
He even took himself 3 years ago to play golf my mum broke her hip so I could see her I had to stay at hers with the dog and catch 3 busses there and back to hospital every day while he went golfing.
My 30th bday
He took his best friend to a four star hotel for a golf break with his DS.
Actually on my bday
I collapsed in town as I was getting 6 buses a day to look after my dad who had a stroke I collapsed due to being ill.
He didn't even come back.
I think I have just lost it.
When I ask what do I get he says you get a home and stability!
Please be kind my mental health is suffering x
AIBU?
LTB
day2day12 · 28/05/2020 15:25
It is really making me question what really happened with his exW
He claims she spent money on credit cards but did he just take her money too?
She left him and married another man had 3 more kids.
He had the snip when his DS was 5 which leads me to think he never wanted more kids and just lied to me.
When I say that to him, he simply says I didn't want more kids with her!
I promised to get a reversal with me but never did.
I do love him but this is not life.
Echo other people and say: read your own post.
I think you will make the right decision.
Good luck OP 
Thank you everyone for your advice I know deep down although I do love him that he won't change.
He is not physically abusive he does not come across as abusive at all he comes across as loving.
Yet when I confront him he just cry's says sorry and that he will try to change but never does.
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OP do you have a smartphone and a UK passport or driving license to hand?
If yes to both, you can open a Monzo account today from home. All you need to do is download the app, and then to verify your identity they get you to take a picture of your ID and then a video of yourself saying "please give me an account" or similar. It is as easy as that, and you card will come in the post a couple of days later. It might be worth using a different address or waiting for the postman if he is prone to stealing or opening your mail.
What he is doing is a crime - this is coercive control and financial abuse. You have got to get out!
Of course, if you have a gut feeling that he could get violent or aggressive, you should talk to Women's Aid first. Your safety comes first.
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