.. to be a bit annoyed with my friend for this...

[MaxandRuby]

my friend made a big thing around easter time of giving up her job, which she hated, and becoming a CM. She went on courses, through OFSTED inspection. Our dds were at the same nursery - she took her dd out, I verbally arranged to have my dd with her 2 days a week. She then got more enquiries, so I reduced to just Mondays and the other 3 days with dd's regular nursery. Contract signed, gave notice at nursery for that day. She got her numbers wrong and had too many - she kept 2 full timers (siblings), and fortunately nusery still had space for dd. Our dds started reception a couple of weeks ago, so my dd has been going to her house after school a few times a week (official, paid arrangement). Tonight she told me she's going back to her old job and giving up being a CM. So now I've got to start again with dd's after school care! In some ways I understand why, she's decided cm isn't for her which is fair enough. But I am a bit annoyed and disappointed for dd - in some ways it would have been easier if I'd just decided not to use her at all from the start! Argh.

[Dior]

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[cluelessnchaos]

I do know what you mean, you devote practial and emotional support to her, but if she had asked your opinion you would have told her to do what made her happy because you are a true friend

[madamez]

It's annoying, but this could just as easily have happened with any CM, not just one who happens to be your mate. Unfortunately people do have to consider what suits them, and it doesn;t always suit you.

[MaxandRuby]

yeah, I've not made a huge deal of it as I didn't see the point really. I think at the start she thought I was just trying to do her a favour, but dd knows her well and is best pals with her dd so I thought it would work well all round. She was so sure she wouldn't go back to her old job! Not to be I guess!

[cluelessnchaos]

From a different point of view I looked after my dd1s best friend for 6 months and when I didnt feel it was working it was so much harder to tell her mum because it felt personal, and there was a bond with that her that I wouldnt have felt with anyone else

[MaxandRuby]

yes that's it - it must have been harder for her to tell me, especially as she's had to let me down before. with just another cm it wouldn't have been so personal.

[MaxandRuby]

I've just started a new job too and am still finding out how flexible they are - bad timing really! At least dh can help out.