Aggressive dad in car park

[Basilandparsleyandmint]

I don’t think I am but let me know what I should have done ....
Met my DS 13 in a local swimming pool car park earlier to take him home after school. Parked up and stood outside car so he could see me. He was walking towards me past a parked car and an empty space. A car shot into the empty space just as he was about to step past it but thankfully my DS caught it out of the corner of his eye and stopped in time.
The car driver was going around a corner quite fast as shot into the Space and my DS thankfully caught him coming and hopped back quickly.I held my breath as the driver shot into the space. My DS wasn’t hurt.
As I walked towards my DS the male driver got out and I said to him in a calm and controlled voice that he ought to be more careful as he was going too fast in car park and that had he realised my son was there. I honestly spoke calmly and in no way aggressively.
The abuse I got back was beyond disgusting he told me to F off / c..t / all manner of aggressive statements - all in front of his wife and two primary aged children. I continued into the swimming reception to pay for some lessons where he kept turning back for more abuse and accused me of staring at him - it was really upsetting.
I just keep thinking if he is like this in public what must he be like at home.

[Justaboy]

Saw one like this is Waitrose theres a small pedistrian crossing thing and a car had slowed down to let someone cross, a somewhat infirm older lady and this bloody 4 x 4 came rushing past the lady and shot off into the other car park where i intended to go.

I saw two children around 6 to 8 years old standing up in the back and the mother!!!! never heard such language from a woman!, 'effing 'blinding she had a real dictonary.

Didn't fancy confronting her i'd probally got my head ripped off:(

[Justaboy]

I am tiny ( under 5ft) and just reacted to seeing my son come close to an score t that I did speak up

Well, well done for being a bit on the brave side:)

[Basilandparsleyandmint]

I was correct for mentioning it after listening to myself and all that have taken the time to comment here. I just Wanted to draw his attention that his driving wasn’t responsible in a car par when small children are getting out for lessons and he could have hurt someone.
I am tiny ( under 5ft) and just reacted to seeing my son come close to an score t that I did speak up. - I am not a confrontational person and just doubted myself after so left it to mn to offer advice.

[MintyMabel]

Only you can decide if it was worth it.

[Basilandparsleyandmint]

Well I suppose Minty Mabel was I right I to mention his awful parking that started the whole situation. I am not one for confrontation but when your child is involved I think the inner defensive strikes out (not that I was either aggressive )

[LittleYorkshireLass]

Bet he wouldn't have spoken to a MAN like that.

[Disfordarkchocolate]

The police may not take any action but I think it would be worth your while to call 111. He was threatening and you felt unsafe, it that can be recorded it's a good thing.

[MintyMabel]

I am scared of what he could do and any come back on me or my family

So do nothing and forget about it then.

What’s your AIBU if you have no intention of reporting his behaviour?

[Insideimsprinting]

Move on op the only thing you did wrong was challenging an absolute twonk of an arse like that. Unfortunately these twonks don't give a shite about driving carefully, they don't give a shite if you report them and want to keep acting like twonks.
I pick my battles with them as its usually a big battle as they are so arrogant, self absorbed and entitled.
Cant blame you for trying though.

[MissChardonnay]

If it was in a private car park the police usually won't intervene unless it's a serious crime.

[Raspberrytruffle]

I would have said you are fighting me and my don in a load voice, please leave me alone or il be forced to call the police. What a bully yanbu, if it was my child I'd like to say to the driver alot more

[rwalker]

Glad you agree waste of police time take up hours of there time and realisticly nothing would happen.
On the plus side (if there is one ) DS aware of how vidulant you have to be in carparks you see some kids just wondering all over them .

[Deelish75]

He may already have been reported previously by someone else for similar behaviour but there wasn’t enough evidence for the police to do anything. Do you think the swimming pool may have CCTV footage, might be worth asking if you can view it. If there is anything on it which could show the man driving dangerously and acting aggressively towards you then you should definitely report it. (A couple of years ago there was a group of kids from local secondary school causing a lot of trouble in our local park, school not interested, police couldn’t do anything unless they witnessed it themselves even though numerous people were complaining to them about the kids so I filmed them, ended up filming more than I bargained for, took the footage into local police station and one of the PCSOs dealt with it. I see the kids around from time to time but had no problems with them). This man drives dangerously, he act very aggressively, he needs stopping and the police are the only people able to do that, give them the chance to do that, before he possibly hurts someone.

[KindKylie]

I reported a similar incident to the police via 101 and they did get in touch and followed it up. It made me feel better if nothing else.

Those children may need someone like you to speak up for the behaviour they're being exposed to. Please report it. It may be the info or intro professionals need to be able to offer support to the family. If no one acts on it at least you can know you've done your bit.

[Topseyt]

Report him if you have his registration number.

I had an arsehole neighbour threaten me once, on my doorstep. No witnesses, but I reported him and the police did go round and give him a caution. He was also known for driving offences too and is basically a complete arse. He is a much quieter arse now though, since the police warning and it was a few years ago.

[PumpkinP]

Like I said I reported a man who actually threatened to head butt me at a bus stop. Not just swore at me or called me names. Actual threat of violence. The police couldn’t have been less interested. They did not do anything. Just told me they would make a note of it, that’s it and to contact them again if it happens again.

[XDownwiththissortofthingX]

I thought the Stasi were ridiculous, but not compared to MN's army of users who seemingly report everything and anything to any sort of agency they can find.

Reporting and giving registration numbers to supermarket customer services? Seriously? What did you think they were going to do beyond throwing it in the bin and having a chuckle to themselves about the utter loon they just had to listen to?

Police wouldn't be remotely interested in someone having a bubble about being shouted at in a car park, but I'm sure they'd stand there internally eye-rolling while they listened to you wasting their time, out of pure courtesy and nothing else.

[TinklyLittleLaugh]

I don’t think the police being overstretched is a reason not to report things. Surely they keep a record of stuff that is reported that they have no resources to investigate. It all adds to their argument that they need to be better funded.

[Justaboy]

police can do something about such behaviour.

JOOI what can the police so as it seems its was the OP-v-Mr Arsehole angry, wouldnt they need a witchness otherwise sureley its one persons word against another?.

[idontlike789]

It may be a crime but so is dropping litter unlikely they will do anything they haven't got the resources.

[BackyardChickens]

Oh god you poor thing. I am so sorry you had to experience such disgusting behaviour.

Please know you did nothing wrong. He is clearly a very damaged and angry individual so you can only pity him.

[idontlike789]

He's a twat !
2 occasions similar happened to me
A woman blocking my drive when she cane out I told her do not park in my drive again , the abuse I got was disgusting I was like .
Another time a Asda employee driving round the car park far too fast while I was walking nearly hit me , she shouted at me I told her it was a car park and to slow down . I took down her reg and reported her to customer services. The woman who blocked my drive I wish I reported her but I was so wound up I just wanted to leave it . Some people do not like being told they are wrong.

[Sceptre86]

Report him.

[skodadoda]

‘Section 5 makes it an offence to use “threatening, abusive or insulting words or behaviour, or disorderly behaviour” or to display “any writing, sign or other visible representation which is threatening, abusive or insulting” within the hearing or sight of a person “likely to be caused harassment, alarm or distress ... police can do something about such behaviour.

[atomicblonde30]

I’m a SW @Pumpkinp whilst you’re correct in thinking we probably wouldn’t and couldn’t do much it’s possible there may be other concerns already on record about him and his family. This would aid in robust evidence collection and maybe the thing SS in his trust would need to become more involved shall we say.

Of course they may not be on our radar at all and it could be nothing and completely not normal for him to which you’re correct nothing would or could be done.