to not allow my 16 yr old DD to have acrylic false nails??

[poppy90]

She is driving me insane, I think they'll ruin her nails & she'll have to have them done every few weeks and the cost!

[pointydog]

oh, you've already sorted it, poppy. Smiles all round, then

[madamez]

Bear in mind that even if they do make her real nails break off, it's only fingernails and they will grow back. Also, if she gets sick of them, the safest way to remove the things oneself is to buy a bottle of acetone from the chemist and soak them off in that.

Also, for those whose DC want body mods, piercings are eeasier to change your mind about than tattoos, as peircings, when removed, l
eave a little hole that soon closes up :-) And nipple, genital peircings etc, won't damage their employment chances as no one needs to lknow they are there

[pointydog]

I only found out recently how they can really damage your own nails when you remove them.

At 16 though, I think I would let her but she'd have to fund them, ideally through a Saturday job.

[poppy90]

Thanks to all of you for your much valued advice I understand IABU, so.... I will agree but there will be compromise ie/ she'll have to deserve it!!And she will be paying for them herself Thanks again xx

[SleeplessInTheStaceym11House]

i had mine done for my wedding and they were great although a little uncomfortable, didnt help i was 6 months pg!

i would say you should let her if shes paying but not offer lifts, if she has to make her own way it might discourage her. if she asks for a lift then use it as a bargining tool!

[islandofsodor]

I had false nails done for my wedding and it was fantastic having nice nails for once. My bitten off nails also had the chance to grow underneath.

YABU.

I am thinking of having mine done again for Christmas maybe.

[dionnelorraine]

yabu

[marge2]

Not much of a long nails fan myself. I think they look a bit tacky. Can't stand it when 'check-out-chicks' can't pick up the change!



However so long as they are not TOO long or TOO bright or get her in trouble at school let her do it! Compromise on the style and she will probably get fed up with the cost! I'm sure you'll have other more important battles to win!!

[ruddynorah]

she's 16, she's paying. let her. it's her problem if she wrecks her nails or is skint from the upkeep. let her make her own mistakes, it's no big deal.

[3madboys]

i had mine done at 16, jsut after my gcse's etc for parties etc, then i continued to have them done when i was doing my a levels, tho i got in a bit of trouble at my grammar school because of the funky colours etc

i paid for them myself and they were much better than those flase nails that you can put on and off yourself, i would have them done now only i am paranoid of scratching ds3 when changing his nappy etc.

so yes i think you are a bit unreasonable, let her do it, but i would encourage her to get a part time job etc or use pocket money to pay for the upkeep.

[lucyellensmum]

FWIW i think nine years old is waaaaay to young as i dont think that children should be encouraged so dress in a "sexy" way.

[lucyellensmum]

I must be a really bad mother - my 17 year old DD is currently on holiday, with her boyfriend! She has just had a tattoo that nearly covers the top of her back, with my consent but she had to pay for it, although thankfully she has never wanted false nails. I can't understand the attraction myself but hey, im a bit of a geezer bird.

On a serious note, is there a compromise - the upkeep sounds like a nightmare and i have no idea of the cost. Does she have the money to pay for it, because this could be a "i really really really want a hamster mummy and yes of course i'll look after it" syndrome. First time she will think it great then when she has to pay for it a second third time etc she wont be so keen. Personally, i would say if that is what she wants then advise and support, make her pay for them herself, or maybe a birthday present, yes, offer them as a xmas present and then she is bound to change her mind and want a nintendo wii or something like that later on.

Just a note though - the more you say no - the more she is going to want them. I was hoping that approach was going to work with the tattoos and numerous peircings it didnt but anyway.

[Sherida]

Speaking as a nail technician, I can assure you that acrylic nails do NOT damage natural nails IF DONE PROPERLY. Neither does removal, although they may feel extra sensitive after for a day or 2. If she really is determined to get them done, ask around and see where is reputable. At present there is no law that states you have to be qualified to be a nail technician so people have been buying the do it yourself sets off of QVC then trying to set up a business - and getting sued. Please go to a salon that has a good reputation and uses proper products. Without wishing to sound xenophobic, be sure the technician understands English, as we have in our area a lot of foreign techs who do not understand what the client needs.

2 last points before I give up my waffle (sorry), is 1) that if it hurts, it's wrong (you'd be surprised how many people will put up with pain for pretty nails!) and 2) due to her age her skin may well still be fairly oily and the extensions may not stay on that well.

If anyone has any questions, please CAT me as I'm only trying to help .

[poppy90]

Well she's a lazy so & so, maybe we can strike a deal!!

[zippitippitoes]

if she's paying i'd let her..in fact i probably wouldn't have noticed

[happystory]

She'll soon get fed up if it's car ride away. Let her have them done, she'll be bored with it in a couple of months

[fluffyanimal]

Can you strike a bargain so that she'll do you a favour in return for the car ride?

I would think that with a 16 yo it is better to be partially involved in these things in case outright refusal leads to going off to get a tattoo done in an unlicenced back alley place.

[poppy90]

Oh I certainly wouldn't let her have them done if I was paying!! Another thing is the salon is a car ride away!! Do I take her as I'm anti??

[clarevoiant]

or assumed even

[clarevoiant]

...assummed...

[clarevoiant]

ohin that case I dont see there's much you can do. I assumes you'd be paying

[poppy90]

9 NINE??????????

[poppy90]

Yes she will be paying. Bugger

[clarevoiant]

YANBU dont do it!!! she will ruin her nails, its costs a fortune,and she will need infills every few weeks which costs more than a manicure. why not let her have her nails manicured and have a design hand painted on instead? Most nail bars only charge and extra fiver for this round our way. IMO this looks much nicer and natural.

Good luck!