Or is work colleague/friend loop the bloody loop
Loopdaloops · 27/12/2019 18:56
I’m single. For two years.
She’s in a (bad) relationship and 3 months pregnant.
She fancies a colleague at work. Nobody else knows except me. She’s fancied him for a while. But again, she is IN a relationship and pregnant.
The man she fancies has asked me out and I accepted. I told her straight away thinking she’d be a bit “oh you lucky cow” about the whole thing.
Nope. She’s bloody furious. Now only talking to me in clipped tones. We were relatively good friends at work.
To me this just seems nuts. Have I broken some sister code here?! Or is she loopy (hormones fair enough)!
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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DisplayPurposesOnly · 27/12/2019 19:04
She's been open to you about fancying him, but you've not said you were interested in him yourself?
I suspect she might feel aggrieved at your deceit, and perhaps vulnerable that you know she fancies him, you might talk to him about it & laugh at her. And you've taken away her fantasy.
Cut her some slack, she's in a bad place.
dontgobaconmyheart · 27/12/2019 19:09
YANBU OP of course, but I don't get why you didn't see this coming. Regardless of the bathshit situation (on her part) you know she fancies him so she was never going to be pleased about a mate dating him was she! Tbh she sounds like her life isn't going very well, which is sad.
Savingforarainyday · 27/12/2019 19:42
How much do you like him?
Bearing in mind, he's a colleague so either
a) you like him enough to deal with weird uncomfortableness if things go badly
b) ( sorry, but, some people are like this) From her point of view, she is trapped in a bad relationship with a baby on the way. She has some mental relief by fancying a co-worker, and the one person she trusts with this information is going out with him now.
Do you really like him? Did you tell her that when she said she fancies him?
It's kind of like, if she said she was really really fancying a rum and coke. You don't really like it, but the next time you guys go out for lunch you have one right in front of her.
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